Tag: Advice

  • Is Having a Boyfriend Actually Embarrassing? Jenayah Shares the Big Sister Advice You Need

    Is Having a Boyfriend Actually Embarrassing? Jenayah Shares the Big Sister Advice You Need

    Boyfriends, Judgement, and the Truth About Independent Women

    In recent conversations within online communities, a trend has emerged around the perception of boyfriends and men in the lives of independent women. There is a persistent idea that being connected to a man somehow diminishes a woman’s aura. Relationships and associations with men are often viewed as major reflections on the woman herself, as if the outside world judges her based on what they believe the man does or thinks. Questions like “Why him?” “What does he give you?” and “She must need him” reveal a broader societal pattern of judgment. These assumptions rarely reflect the man in the actual relationship who is receiving judgment, but instead highlight how society still evaluates a woman’s value through the lens of her relationships. Digital creator and female powerhouse Jenayah shared her thoughts on this topic, offering insight into relationships of all kinds…platonic, non-sexual, and otherwise..and what they reveal about perception, independence, and identity.

    What Is Jenayah’s Take on Men and Judgement?

    Jenayah is a force of nature, strong, independent, and full of grit. She has worked extensively within the ZEAL Community on brand shoots, manages her own bookings, and travels for other creative projects. She has walked in Kelowna Fashion Week and participated in the 2025 Dress for Success event, and is widely recognized as a leader in the community. She follows her own moral compass and does not let anyone else’s expectations or opinions define her. Growing up and building her life in a small town has sharpened her sense of self and given her the confidence to speak honestly about what she believes. With that perspective, we asked her about relationships with men.

    What is your take on relationships with men from an outside perspective? Do you think society makes them feel awkward or embarrassed?

    Jenayah did not hold back. “I think men do not shoot for the stars when dating and punish the moon because he settled for her. I do not think society makes men feel embarrassed enough.”

    Do You Really Know Who You Are and What You Want?

    Now blunt, yes. Harsh, yes. But Jenayah’s feelings are valid. They reflect the current societal dynamics, which may play a role in how men and relationships are perceived. In her own words, “I think men don’t shoot for the stars when dating.” This could come across as intentional or uneducated, even self-inflicted. Harm often comes from not truly knowing who they are, what they like, or what they deserve, while at the same time placing blame on those around them. To reflect on this, here are some questions you, your boyfriend, your friend, or anyone regardless of gender identity can ask yourself: Who are you and what do you want?

    Self-Reflection Quiz: Who Am I and What Do I Really Want?

    Instructions: Answer honestly. No right or wrong answers. This is for you.

    1. Who am I?
      • A) Confident and independent
      • B) Still figuring it out
      • C) I’m a mix, depends on the day
    2. Do I like myself?
      • A) Absolutely, flaws and all
      • B) Sometimes, still learning
      • C) Not really, I struggle with it
    3. Do I enjoy being thought of and cared for?
      • A) Yes, but I can also give myself love
      • B) Sometimes, but I often rely on others too much
      • C) Not sure, I tend to avoid attention
    4. What effort am I willing to put in to receive the love I want?
      • A) I actively work on myself and my relationships
      • B) I try, but it can be inconsistent
      • C) I expect others to do most of the work
    5. Am I okay taking care of myself, or do I want someone to meet me in the middle?
      • A) I take care of myself first, but value partnership
      • B) I try to take care of myself but appreciate help
      • C) I want someone to do it all for me
    6. If I want someone to do it all for me, is that sustainable?
      • A) No, healthy relationships require balance
      • B) Maybe, but it could cause tension
      • C) I haven’t thought about it
    7. Why can’t I find or create these things myself?
      • A) I can, I just choose to share the journey
      • B) I’m learning how to
      • C) I rely too much on others and need reflection

    Reflection:

    • Mostly A’s: You are self-aware, independent, and ready for healthy partnerships.
    • Mostly B’s: You are on a journey of self-discovery and growth. Keep learning about your needs and boundaries.
    • Mostly C’s: Focus on yourself first. Build your own happiness before expecting it from others.

    Can Love and Creativity Coexist Without Losing Yourself?

    Love and creativity often go hand in hand. In our community, we see it all the time — the way people show up for each other, support projects, and bring energy into collaborations can inspire not just art, but growth, confidence, and connection. That experience gives a lot of insight into how relationships, whether romantic or platonic, shape the way we express ourselves and see the world.

    Creativity isn’t just about making cool stuff. It’s about becoming yourself, stepping into a character, or letting your energy flow however it wants. But here is the real question. Can creativity survive when everyone around you is projecting who they think you should be? When expectations are placed on you, or when the world asks for certain materials from you, can you still stay true to yourself without losing your spark? And what about love? Can that same magic happen without compromising who you are? Learning to love yourself or others can help you uncover parts of yourself you have been waiting to find, even when the world is trying to shape you.

    We all know the people around us matter, but do they really shape who we are? Does someone else’s actions reflect your morals? Or can you be surrounded by all kinds of energy, good, bad, grey, messy, and still come out colourful?

    We asked Jenayah, a creative powerhouse in our community who plans shoots, rocks brand events, and consistently shows up for her craft, what she thinks.

    Do the people around you fuel your creativity or do you just go with the flow?
    Jenayah kept it real. “The people around me fuel my creativity, but it wasn’t always like that. I had to let everyone know I am here and I am creative. If my community didn’t know I wanted to create, they wouldn’t fuel me.”

    Have relationships ever impacted your creativity, positively or negatively?
    Her answer is straight up honesty. “Dating people who don’t appreciate your creativity can really hold you back. Negativity from others makes it harder to fully express yourself.”

    Jenayah on Staying Yourself While Letting Love In

    Again, this gives us a window into how Jenayah thinks and believes. On one hand, the things around her don’t impact the way she drives herself. She relies on self-motivation and determination. But on the other hand, she acknowledges that romantic feelings, perhaps love, can influence how certain outcomes play out. Using Jenayah’s thoughts, and maybe a bit of projection, it seems like love can be one of the biggest factors in someone’s downfall or rise. But is this tied to self-love? How well you know yourself and how willing you are to show yourself to those around you matters. If people don’t know who you are, who you want to be, and how you operate, how can they support you in the way you need?

    Relationships can challenge us, but they also show the importance of boundaries. By being upfront about who you are and what you need from the start, you can guide how people treat you moving forward. Taking risks and opening up is part of growth, but having a safe support system means you don’t feel the pressure to be who someone else wants out of survival instincts. Looking at situations from multiple perspectives, rather than comparing yourself to others, allows you to stay true to yourself while still letting love and connection in.

    We asked Jenayah how this translates into her advice for younger creators finding themselves.

    Question: “For younger creators, what is your top advice for connecting with other creatives, the good, the bad, and what to watch out for?”

    Response: “For the first meet-up, bring a trusted adult. Even if you are an adult yourself. I am 25 and I still bring my mom to photoshoots. She usually ends up holding props or aiding in lighting. Most importantly, we are not putting me in a vulnerable position.”

    Guiding the Next Generation with Confidence and Respect

    This is great advice, and as part of our media community, we love having Jenayah around to be a spokesperson for others who are just starting out. She is often on site with us and our clients, helping behind the scenes with models and community members, making sure everyone feels comfortable and happy. She is like the younger generation’s mom, while also inspiring the older members to speak up for themselves.

    Jenayah shows others what confidence looks like through clear communication, self-awareness, and respect. She guides people with her experience while allowing new emotions to be expressed and valued without judgment. She encourages everyone to adapt, be open, and stay honest while remaining respectful. This is such a key point in friendships and relationships across the board. Knowing who you are, what you want, and what you deserve, without bending to what others expect, keeps you feeling on top, confident, and respected, while also fostering respect around you.

    Love, Respect, and Creating Without Fear

    Our final question was about red flags for new creators.

    Question: “What are some red flags new creators should watch out for when collaborating with someone? How do you know when or when not to create with someone, and how inclusive they really are? This can apply to romantic, platonic, and all gender or sexual orientations.”

    Response: “A red flag to look for is how they talk to you or about you. Are they saying good, amazing, great, stunning, wow? Then I think that is a green flag. If they say something sexual, you have three choices. One, it doesn’t affect you and you continue with the shoot. Two, you say something, set the boundary, and move forward with the shoot. Three, you feel uncomfortable and stop the shoot. If they keep complimenting you over and over, listen to your gut to see if it encourages you or if something feels off. To gain trust with a creative, bring a close friend or trusted adult to help behind the scenes. They know you best and have your best interests in mind.”

    The bottom line is simple. Set boundaries and leave if they do not respect you. But what if you did not have a big sister like Jenayah to guide you? How would you feel in these situations if no one told you what to do? Respecting yourself and knowing who you are in any situation—what you like, what you don’t like, what you love, and what you don’t want—creates the foundation for healthy relationships. Trust your gut, follow through, and learn through your experiences. Do not project one experience onto everyone else. Take the time to get to know yourself, and when someone aligns with your values, it will feel right.

    Sending the best.

  • Packing For Labour Made Easy

    Packing For Labour Made Easy

    I’m 24 and about to give birth to my second baby, and packing for the hospital is still a wild ride. From what I learned the first time to the little hacks I am adding this time, I am sharing exactly what’s in my bag and my baby’s bag, so you can see what is really essential and what is totally extra. Think first time mom confessions, second time survival tips, and everything you need to make delivery day as cozy and stress free as possible.

    24 And Having Baby Number Two

    I am approaching my due date in February and I have completed my hospital bags, with just a few things still left to pack. This time around, I feel a lot less anxious, but I still worry I will get there and feel like I do not have everything I need. The first time I went, to be honest, I left the same day with my son. I did not stay the night and wanted to come home right away, so everything I brought, I did not really use. But the things I did use, I know are my personal essentials. This time, I am definitely planning to stay, as my first is now a toddler and I need some rest before going home. Everything we are bringing for me and baby is cute, cozy, and practical.

    Comfy Essentials For Mom

    The last time I was in labour, I made sure to bring all the little things, but not the major essentials. I was very cold in the hospital, and I gave birth in July! This time around, it will be winter, so here are the things I am making sure to bring to stay cozy, comfortable, and ready for baby.

    What to pack:

    • Sweaters – Layering is key in the hospital, especially in winter. They keep you warm during downtime and skin-to-skin moments.
    • Cozy pants and pajamas – Comfort first. These are perfect for resting, sleeping, and lounging without feeling restricted.
    • Maternity bras – Easy for feeding and provide support while nursing.
    • Cozy socks – Hospital floors are often cold, so keep your feet warm.
    • Big, comfortable underwear – Extra padding and room make postpartum life so much easier.
    • Comfy shorts – In case you get a bit warm or need to move around comfortably.
    • Oversized tee shirts – Great for layering and easy to change into; plus, I pack a couple of nicer daytime shirts to feel fresh and put together.
    • Robe – Perfect for after a shower or just as a loose, cozy option to wear around the hospital.

    Baby’s Bag Essentials

    With Sabo, we had him in swaddles most of the time. The hospital provides a few items and even helps wrap your baby for you. They also gave him a little hat and had a whole cart of essentials just for him, like diapers, wipes, and creams. It was enough for a two-day stay, but they do not provide clothing. They do give towels, a little blanket, and other necessary items, but anything else you want your baby to wear, you will need to bring yourself. Here is what we are packing for our daughter this time.

    What we packed for our daughter:

    • Three pairs of pajamas – Comfortable for sleeping and lounging in the hospital.
    • One swaddle – For cozy, secure sleep and skin-to-skin time.
    • Two blankets – One for warmth and one for extra comfort.
    • Three hats – To keep her little head warm.
    • Two sets of hand coverings – To protect tiny hands from scratches.
    • Four pairs of socks – To keep her feet cozy.
    • One daytime outfit – For photos or just to feel a little dressed.
    • One going-home outfit – Cute, practical, and ready for the car ride.
    • Onesies and sleepers – Soft and comfy for tiny toes.
    • Diapers and wipes – For easy changes during the hospital stay.
    • Soft cloths – Perfect for wiping up milk or for her first bath at the hospital.

    Going Home Outfit

    For the going home outfit, we’re keeping it cozy and practical. Fleece bottoms, a long sleeve top, and a sweater without a hood make for a comfy car ride. We will pair it with a cute hat, mitts, socks, and warm shoes and add a soft blanket over the car seat to keep the baby snug all the way home.

    Favourite Extra Item

    One of my all-time favourite items after giving birth was my belly wrap. I put that thing on right after delivery, and let me tell you, it helped so much. I felt supported, and it made the transition a lot easier for bending over, picking things up, or just moving in general. Not only does it help your body recover, but it adds a lot of support to your lower back and core when everything still feels tender.

    Other comforting extras:

    • Cozy blanket – Perfect for snuggling baby during your stay.
    • Sentimental keepsake – A small personal item to make the experience feel special.
    • Comfort snack or drink– For quick moments of calm in between.
    • Headphones for labour – Whether it’s music, meditation, or your favourite playlist, they help you stay focused and calm through contractions.

    Postpartum & Comfort Essentials

    These are a few things that made my hospital stay so much more comfortable and helped me feel more like myself after giving birth. Some of them might not be essentials, but they make a big difference when you are in a space that can feel a little unfamiliar.

    This time around I am packing a few things that made a huge difference last time, and a few new ones that I wish I had brought sooner.

    Postpartum bottle: Perfect for when wiping feels super painful, even with wipes. Just fill it with water and spray the area. It feels so much better than trying to wipe down there.

    Breast pads: A must-have for leaking. You can slip them into your maternity bra to catch those moments and stay comfortable.

    Disposable underwear: The hospital gives you some, but these ones are perfect for after or when you do not want to keep asking for more. They are stretchy, comfortable, and made to be thrown away without creating harmful waste.

    Personal hospital gown: This was super important to me. The normal gowns only open at the back and stay open, which felt uncomfortable. When I had my first, I got mine off Amazon. It had buttons that opened and closed where I needed, not always open or restrictive. It made a big difference, especially when the baby came.

    Breastfeeding pillow: Helps with your abs and gives great support so you do not feel like you have to hold the baby up while lying in bed.

    Breastfeeding cover: I’m bringing one this time so I do not have to wear only easy access clothing. Honestly, when I was looking online, nothing looked cute to me, so I bought pieces I would actually wear at home or out. The cover gives me privacy while letting me look down at my baby and still wear things that make me feel like myself.

    Toiletries: A huge must in feeling fresh and grounded while you are in a space that can feel a bit mentally draining.

    Towel and shower shoes: Last time I brought Crocs, and this time I’m packing both Crocs and slippers. Perfect for keeping clean and comfy in the hospital bathroom.

    Robe: Great for after a shower or just as a loose, cozy option to wear around the room.

    Cloths: Handy for wiping milk or when your baby has their first bath. Those little moments can get messy quickly.

    Vicks: Helps with congestion or just to feel clear and refreshed.

    Slippers: Keep your feet warm and cozy during your stay.

    Headphones: Perfect for labour to tune out noise, listen to music, or focus on your breathing.

    These little things might not seem huge, but they truly help you feel more like yourself during such a big moment.

    Hospital Bag Toiletries Essentials

    Here are my toiletries. To be honest, taking a shower after birth and just putting on fresh clothes, brushing your hair, and doing your routine made me feel so much more relaxed.

    The first time we stayed, we were there for around 14 hours before heading home. I had a shower, ate two meals, took a nap, and honestly felt amazing. This time around, I’m making sure I have everything I need to feel refreshed and comfortable again.

    Face wash: To gently cleanse and wake up your skin after labour.

    Leave-in conditioner: Keeps your hair soft and easy to manage when you might not have time for a full routine.

    Body lotion: Helps hydrate your skin and brings a bit of comfort after a long day.

    Pillow or room spray: Makes the hospital room feel more like home and helps you relax before resting.

    Extra conditioner: Because hospital air can be super dry and your hair might need a little more love.

    Mini shampoo and conditioner: Perfect travel size for a quick refresh without overpacking.

    Night serum: Helps your skin recover and feel nourished, especially after the long hours of labour.

    Body wash: Just something that feels good and smells fresh — a small way to feel normal again.

    Hair ties: You’ll thank yourself for packing a few extra.

    Tooth brush: Super Important!!

    These little comforts make a big difference when you’re recovering, bonding with your baby, and just trying to feel human again.

    Before You Leave

    Make sure you have everything ready so the trip to the hospital is smooth and stress-free.

    Birth plan: Have your preferences on hand so you can share them with your care team.

    Wallet and documentation: Keep your ID and insurance cards together in one place.

    Car seat: Install it in your car by 24 weeks to be ready ahead of time.

    Phone charger: Stay connected and capture all the special moments.

    Headphones: Perfect for relaxing during the ride or preparing for labour.

    Water and snacks: Keep hydrated and energized for the journey and early recovery.

    Final Thoughts

    Packing for the hospital can feel overwhelming, but having your essentials ready makes such a difference. From clothes and toiletries to little comfort items and your baby’s must-haves, each item helps you feel more prepared, relaxed, and supported during such a big moment.

    I hope sharing my hospital bag gives you some helpful ideas and inspiration for your own stay.

    If you want more tips, behind-the-scenes moments, or just want to reach out, follow me on Instagram @Taylor.cookk. I would love to hear from you and connect!

  • Why Your Cleanser Is Secretly Ruining Your Skin—And How to Fix It Fast

    Why Your Cleanser Is Secretly Ruining Your Skin—And How to Fix It Fast

    Don’t let stale skincare steal your glow or your worth. It’s time to take back control with a cleanser as fresh and powerful as you are.

    We’ve joined forces, our modelling community and media team, to bring you a fresh rebrand rooted in realness and purpose. This is more than skincare; it’s a movement honouring the beauty of self-worth and respect.

    The 3 Hidden Skincare Habits That Are Sabotaging Your Glow

    You’ve got your routine down, your bathroom shelf is stocked, and you’re doing what you’re told is good for your skin. So why does it still feel dull, tight, or just not quite right?

    Chances are, a few hidden habits are getting in the way. Things like over washing with harsh cleansers, using products that have lost their punch sitting on a shelf, or layering too much without knowing what actually works together.

    That’s where Abelin FAST™ Cleanser changes everything. Instead of sitting in a bottle losing power over time, the formula stays fresh and potent until the moment you activate it.

    All you do is pour the concentrate into your refillable Forever Bottle, add water, give it a good shake and that is it. In seconds, you have a high performance cleanser made fresh by you.

    It is simple. It is powerful. And it works for all skin types without stripping or stressing your skin.

    Because skincare should support your skin not make it work overtime.

    Glow better, not harder.

    Fresh Vibes Only A Fun and Simple Abelin Inspired Routine

    Start your day with some skin love and good energy Here’s a quick routine that’s fresh fun and works for everyone!

    • Shake it up Pour your Abelin FAST concentrate into the Forever Bottle add water and shake it like you mean it Fresh cleanser ready to go zero waste total glow power
    • Wash away the day Use your fresh mix to gently clean off dirt sweat and whatever else the day threw at you No tight or stripped feeling just clean and happy skin
    • Soft touch dry Pat your face dry with a soft towel No rubbing needed Your skin will thank you
    • Refresh and balance Spritz on your fave gentle toner if you want to add a little extra love
    • Lock it in Finish with a light moisturizer and sunscreen Your skin’s best friends for staying healthy and glowing

    Bonus points for smiling at yourself because confidence is the best glow of all….Keep it fresh keep it fun and let your skin shine bright.

    More Than Skin Deep: Why Your Routine Affects Your Mood and Your Glow

    Life moves fast. Everything changes from trends to talks to politics and it can feel like taking care of yourself is way down the list. Totally get it. When things feel off outside it is hard to feel your best or even think you deserve it.

    But here is the deal. Taking a moment to check in on how you feel about your habits and what really works for you is a major power move. Saying out loud that something feels off is not failing. It is winning the first round.

    To level up you have to cut what weighs you down switch things up or risk staying stuck hating what you think you want. This is your moment to break free and unlock your power.

    So show yourself some love. Fill your world with good vibes. Try new things and keep your mind open. Because when you do things change and that glow up will hit your skin your life and everything good coming your way.

    Here are 10 easy affirmations to boost your confidence and energy while you get ready in the morning:

    • Today I choose to be kind to myself.
    • I deserve to feel good in my own skin.
    • Every day I get a little stronger and braver.
    • Happiness is something I welcome into my life.
    • I am proud of the progress I make.
    • I am enough just the way I am right now.
    • Positive energy flows through me today.
    • Challenges don’t stop me—they help me grow.
    • I appreciate my body and all it does for me.
    • I’m ready to take on today with an open mind.

    How ZEALUNITY Models Get Ready for the Camera

    Content shoot loading… and it all starts with getting your mind, skin, and bag right.

    1. Clean Skin, Clear Mind
    After receiving their Abelin cleanser, our models love using it the night before or morning of their shoot. The fresh-mix formula makes it feel like a mini ritual — one quick step to reset and prep your skin so it’s clean, calm, and ready to glow.

    2. Pack Your Model Bag
    Every model has their version, but here are the non-negotiables most ZEALUNITY girls and guys toss in:

    • Nude and black undergarments
    • A plain tank or tee
    • A zip-up hoodie or robe for in-between looks
    • Makeup wipes
    • Hair ties and a brush
    • Light moisturizer and lip balm
    • Water bottle and a snack (granola bar or fruit is a fav)
    • Confidence (and maybe a phone charger)

    3. Hype Playlist On Repeat
    Getting into the mood is everything. Expect to hear a mix of RAYE, Tyler The Creator, Tate McRae, Ice Spice, or some vibey R&B or house beats to calm the nerves and pump the energy. Think pre-game meets main character moment.

    4. Set Intentions, Not Expectations
    Whether it’s your first shoot or your fiftieth, our models remind themselves it’s about growing, experimenting, and having fun. Breathe, stretch, take a mirror selfie. Say your affirmations. This is your space to evolve.

    5. Don’t Forget the Vibe Check
    Good attitude = good shoot. Help others zip up their outfits, gas each other up, and remember you’re part of something bigger. This isn’t just a shoot — it’s a community, and we’re in it together.

    Real Talk with the Founders of Abelin Skin Care 🇨🇦✨

    The truth behind the bottles — in their own words.

    We sat down with the duo behind Abelin Skin Care to get the real story — the wins, the worries, and the “we can actually do this” moments that brought this innovative brand to life. From family inspiration to skincare habits and future dreams, here’s what they had to say:

    1. What was the “aha” moment that made you two decide to actually launch this product?

    Our breakthrough moment came during a casual conversation about my great-grandmother’s vintage jar — the same one we still use today to store our dishwasher pods! Realizing this beautiful container survived two world wars and is still going strong made us stop and think: every bottle we casually toss might outlast us by generations, potentially causing harm for decades to come.

    That’s when Abelin was born — as our way to reclaim those bottles from becoming waste, by giving them multiple lives, just like that jar. ✨

    We’ll be honest — the journey hasn’t been easy! Between juggling day jobs and battling perfectionism (hello, imposter syndrome!), we’ve launched, relaunched, and refined our vision more than once. But that’s exactly why we’re so passionate now — we’re finally ready to share this labour of love with the world, imperfections and all.

    2. What inspired the name Abelin?

    Abelin is our love letter to the two incredible women who raised us.

    Abe comes from Abeke — Yinka’s mom’s name (and now our daughter’s first name, too!).
    Lin honours Linda, Kayla’s mom.

    These powerhouse women always pushed us to reach higher, to believe in ourselves, and to never settle. Naming our brand after them felt like the most natural way to honour their legacy while building something rooted in their values: excellence, care, and positive impact.

    3. How would you describe your brand’s energy in three words?

    Pure Aquarius energy. ✨
    • Curious — always questioning the status quo
    • Reformer — challenging industry norms
    • Innovative — creating fresh solutions to old problems

    4. What makes your product different from everything else on the shelf right now?

    Abelin empowers people to be part of the solution — without sacrificing results. That’s revolutionary.

    We care deeply about every ingredient and how it benefits your skin. But we’re just as passionate about what happens after your bottle is empty. Abelin lets you choose both: effective skincare and a lower-impact lifestyle. No compromises — just beautiful skin and a better future, packaged in a system designed to eliminate waste.

    5. Be honest — who’s more skincare-obsessed between the two of you?

    That would definitely be me (Kayla)! I have a full nighttime routine and love every minute of it. Yinka? Zero routine — but he’s obsessed with formulation and the science behind skincare.

    Funny enough, this all started when I was eyeing a $100 serum and Yinka said, “We could totally make that ourselves.” One formulation course later, and seven years down the road, we’re still making skincare magic. Total plot twist. ✨

    6. What do your kids think about the business? Have they gotten involved in any fun ways?

    Seeing how proud our kids are is one of our biggest motivations. Our son’s become a little environmental warrior — talking to his friends about waste reduction and saying, “My parents make the best skincare.”

    And our four-year-old daughter? She’s obsessed with skincare. Honestly, she has the soul of a twenty-year-old beauty lover. We’re already dreaming of creating signature products for them one day. How amazing would that be? 💕

    7. What’s a random, personal habit that inspired how you made or use this product?

    Honestly? Pure laziness. 😅

    Making skincare from scratch is time-consuming, so we started pre-making concentrated bases and just adding water for refills. One day we thought — why not offer that same ease to others?

    And that’s how our skincare concentrates were born. Sometimes the best ideas come from finding smarter—not harder—ways to do things.

    8. If Abelin had a vibe song or playlist, what’s on it?

    Yinka’s picks capture us perfectly:
    “Bloody Samaritan” and “Happiness” — bold, uplifting, and unstoppable.

    We also love “High Hopes” by Panic! At The Disco — we’re always shooting for the stars. Our soundtrack is all about joy, empowerment, and that feeling you get when you know you’re making a difference in the world. ✨

    9. What do you want people to feel when they try your product for the first time?

    Pride and joy.

    That incredible feeling of knowing that one small switch — choosing Abelin — makes a real impact for the planet. And on top of that? Glowing skin. We want you to love how you look and love what you’re a part of.

    It’s the perfect combo: doing good while looking incredible. What’s not to love?

    10. What’s one dream for the future of Abelin — even if it feels big?

    Our ultimate vision? No more single-use waste in skincare.

    Think about this: most plastic and glass containers are built to last over four generations… yet we throw them out after a few months. That means your great-grandkids could literally hold the bottle you’re using today.

    With Abelin, that’s possible. We’re not just saving bottles — we’re creating legacy. One refill at a time. ✨

    Ready to try the glow-up cleanser everyone’s talking about Experience fresh skin and clean ingredients with Abelin FAST skincare Visit Abelincare.com to learn more and start your fresh routine today

    CREDITS – Brought to life by the ZEAL community

    Featured Models
    Jenayah, Sydney May, Deep, Hammad, Olivia Ball, Kirat, Shivana

    Creative Direction
    Shivana – Assistant Creative Director and Second Shooter
    Photographer from ZEAL Media Team
    Okanagan Portraits – Lead Photographer

    Edited in-house and curated by ZEAL
    Brand Vision by ZEAL

    In Collaboration With
    Brand – Abelin

    A Big Thank You
    We’re so grateful to be creating with such a passionate and inspiring community. Every shoot, every story, every moment is a reminder of why we do this. Thank you to everyone involved for showing up, sharing your energy, and making this vision real. We’re just getting started — and we can’t wait for what’s next.

    With love,
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  • I Met My Fiancé in a Bar at 20

    I Met My Fiancé in a Bar at 20

    In this story, you’ll find real signs that might help you on your own journey—

    The timing didn’t make sense, I wasn’t looking, and honestly, I almost didn’t say anything. But something told me to go for it.

    If you’ve been wondering how to know when it’s right—or how to trust yourself when something feels different—this one’s for you.

    Simple, real, and maybe exactly what you need to hear right now.

    Wait… I’m Only 20

    How I accidentally found something real, what it taught me, and the signs that showed me I was ready—before I even knew it.

    So here’s the vibe: I had just graduated, and, honestly, I thought I had it all figured out—or at least I wanted to think I did. You know that whole Malibu Pink Dream where you marry the guy you first kissed and everything just falls into place? Yeah, that was the fantasy. But, spoiler alert, life had other plans.

    Before I met Mason, I had come out of a relationship that just… wasn’t good. I felt confused, honestly. Like I didn’t know who I was anymore. That age—18 to 20—it’s wild. You feel like you’re supposed to know what you’re doing, but really you’re just starting the climb and it’s super uncomfy. I was living alone, barely holding it together, trying to get my photography hustle going. My family was going through it too, so everything just felt heavy.

    But I kept working on myself, even if I was hurting. I couldn’t see what was next, but I felt something coming. Then one random night, I was at this little town bar—taking pics for content, doing my thing—and I look up and see this guy. The night before, I had been so done. I literally drank water, said a little prayer, and asked to be guided to my person + purpose. I think I saw the method on TikTok? Either way, I believed it.

    And boom. The next night, there I was, off the clock at this bar I’d been going to forever, and suddenly I’m sitting across from someone I’d never seen before—even though we literally knew everyone in common. It was surreal. I almost walked away, but something told me to stay. Trust your gut. That night was the start of something I never could’ve imagined.

    What Made This a Green Flag (And Not Just Another “He’s Different I Swear” Moment 💍)

    In the beginning, it’s hard to really tell if something’s going to be real. You just can’t know right away—but what you can do is look for the subtle signs. Are they giving you full energy and effort? Do they keep the conversation going by asking deeper questions when things start to lull? Are they tuned into your energy and actually respecting it—or just complimenting how you look?

    For me, I knew I wasn’t walking into another gaslight-lovebomb-repeat cycle. I had my flags all the way up. One of the biggest was: if he talks about himself, does he loop me into it? Does he offer the same level of listening I’m giving? Because if not, I’m not sitting through that again.

    With Mason, something was different. Even now, one of his biggest green flags is the way he listens. Like, really listens. He lets the space sit in a convo and doesn’t rush it—but somehow he always responds like he’s been taking mental notes with a pen and paper. That patience and presence? That’s rare. That’s what told me I wasn’t just being heard—I was being understood.

    That night at the bar? We talked for 7 hours straight—barely touched our drinks. No distractions, just us locked in, like the world paused so we could actually see each other.

    Biggest Green Flag? The Energy Had Depth.

    One of my biggest turn-ons? Spirituality. Not in the “let me read your birth chart and disappear” way—but more in the vibe of someone who can have open, honest conversations without needing to wrap it all up. Just someone who can flow with the conversation and take the time to walk through the thoughts together. I love people who inspire me, and it doesn’t even have to be some deep, life-changing thing. It could be the way you make your morning coffee, the energy in your space, or how you move through your day.

    And you know what I just thought of… People who are great at what they do usually fall into one of two categories: either super structured, but a bit off in other ways, or laid-back, dependable, with a solid work ethic. The second one? That’s the kind of energy I was looking for.

    When I first saw his place, he had a rose quartz in the living room. Not gonna lie, it wasn’t placed in the most organized way—it was a little random. But it wasn’t about the placement. It was the fact that he had it there at all. That small detail said way more about him than any perfect setup could.

    Structure? Check.

    Why IT Got So Serious🤍

    I grew up seeing a lot of divorce in my family, so I guess I always had a different view of relationships. But even through all that, I still believed in love. I didn’t know exactly what it would look like, but I knew I wanted something real. A family, a solid foundation, but not in the traditional sense.

    So yeah, being serious this young? Definitely shocks some people. But honestly, I was over the hookup culture and all the energy-draining stuff. Meeting people, going out, trying to align with people who aren’t even on the same vibe…Exhausting. I get it if you’re still all about that, I was too. But things hit differently when you start wanting more.

    Girls’ night? Used to be all about talking about the guys but now.. I just want to curl up with my person, watch TV, and not deal with any negativity. It’s not that I don’t love my friends—I do!—but I just don’t have the energy for drama anymore. I didn’t realize how much I needed that peace until I found it.

    Just lucky I found my person.

    What I Wasn’t Going to Settle For: Early Talks

    There’s a lot of conversation these days about what roles we choose to take on in relationships, and while everyone’s path is different, I think how we’ve been raised plays a huge part in shaping what we desire. For some, starting a family is the ultimate goal. For others, it’s a different kind of fulfillment. And personally, I’m just grateful to have the freedom to choose what feels right for me.

    That being said, I wasn’t going to let go of my voice or compromise on the things that matter most to me. I had some non-negotiables, and here’s what they were.

    1. Honesty above all else. It might not always be easy, but keeping things to yourself to spare feelings never works out. In my view, it’s always better to speak up respectfully. In the end, it’s us against the world.
    2. We keep our individuality. We each make time for the things we love to do, and we support each other in that. It’s important not to lose ourselves in the process.

    Trust is essential, but it’s not about just saying “yes” to everything. If someone changes their behavior intentionally, that’s a red flag. It’s not a “miscommunication,” it’s something deeper. And I wasn’t about to ignore that.

    Mason? He’s good. He’s solid. He’s real. And I want to share this because I believe we all deserve to find someone who respects what we bring to the table.

    Growing Together: Like… Actually

    You know that feeling when everything just starts syncing up? Like suddenly your goals hit different, your confidence goes up, and your daily routine doesn’t feel like a mess anymore? That’s when you know you’re growing with someone, not just dating them.

    It’s giving power couple energy—but make it real. You feel more like you, not less. They know your moods, your fav songs, your weird little habits, and somehow it all makes you feel safe but still excited.

    And listen, if you’re constantly feeling off outside the relationship, like drained or second-guessing everything… it’s a sign. Being with someone shouldn’t mute your magic. Together or apart, the vibe should still feel full. If not? That’s not growth—it’s a pause.

    🎯 20 Sneaky Questions to Ask Your Partner (+ What Their Answers Could Say About Them)

    If you could live anywhere for a year, where would it be?🌍 Big dreamer = adventurous.🏠 Same hometown = loves comfort.
    Would you rather plan the trip or just show up?📋 Planner = responsible.🛫 Spontaneous = fun but maybe chaotic.
    What’s your dream Saturday?🧘‍♀️ Chill = calm energy.🎉 Wild = thrill seeker.
    What’s something you secretly wish you were amazing at?🎨 Creative stuff = deep soul.💼 Business stuff = ambition coded.
    What’s your go-to when you’re stressed?🏃‍♂️ Gym/active = healthy outlet.🍸 Party = 🚩 maybe distraction issues.
    What’s a dealbreaker for you in friendships?🚪 Instant exit = strong boundaries.🥴 “Idk” = red flag… lack of standards.
    If money wasn’t a thing, what would you do all day?💸 Hustler mindset = long-term player.🍃 Vibe-only = might struggle with pressure.
    What was your favourite age so far?🎈Childhood = still healing?🌟 Recent = growing & evolving.
    Do you believe everything happens for a reason?✨ Yes = emotionally deep.🥱 No = might need more convincing.
    Would you rather be respected or loved?🧠 Respected = stable and serious.💕 Loved = sensitive king/queen.
    What’s your toxic trait?😇 Honest = self-aware.🙈 Avoids = no thanks.
    What’s a weird food combo you secretly like?🥑 Quirky = fun to live with.🚫 “Nothing” = boring sorry not sorry.
    What’s something you’d want to get better at in relationships?💬 Communication = green flag.🙃 “I’m good” = delulu alert.
    How do you usually apologize?📖 Talks it out = healthy.😬 Avoids it = prepare for headaches.
    Would you rather win an award or hear it privately from someone you love?🏆 Public = external validation vibes.🥹 Private = heart-centered.
    What’s something random that makes you feel rich?🧺 Clean sheets? 🚿 Long showers? They appreciate the little things.
    What’s your favourite part of your day usually?☀️ Morning = motivated.🌙 Night = deep thinker.
    What’s your favourite way to recharge?🔥 Alone time = independent.🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Around people = extrovert coded.
    How do you like spending holidays?Family = loyal and sentimental.✈️ Getaway trips = loves freedom.
    If you could master one random skill, what would it be?🎸 Guitar = romantic tendencies.

    (without making it weird or overthinking it)

    • Stay loud in your little ways.
      Your jokes, your random interests, your way of doing things? That’s literally what makes you you. Don’t “soften” yourself to fit some imaginary vibe. If you’re goofy, be goofy. If you’re quiet but witty, let it snipe out in moments.
    • Confidence ≠ being the loudest.
      Confidence is just being sure you don’t need to perform. You’re not auditioning. You’re just existing. Let the energy come to you, not the other way around.
    • You’re not “too much.”
      Real ones want the full you — the layered, crazy, chill, passionate, whatever-you-are-today you. If you feel yourself shrinking around someone… that’s info, babe, not a sign you need to get smaller.
    • Open heart, wise mind.
      Stay soft and open to love, new conversations, and cute little surprises — but keep your standards, your goals, and your non-negotiables on lock.
      (being open doesn’t mean you gotta abandon your instincts.)
    • Silence doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
      You don’t have to fill every second with talking or energy. Being able to just exist together is hot. Comfort is loud in its own way.
    • Remind yourself: you’re the prize too.
      Not in an ego way. In a mutual respect, mutual effort, mutual energy kind of way.
      You’re not “lucky” they like you. They’re lucky they get to experience you in your light.

    23, a Baby, and Building a Life Together

    If you would’ve told me a few years ago that by 23 I’d have a baby with the boy I met at the bar and we’d be running our own businesses…
    I would’ve laughed and gone right back to overthinking my entire life in my notes app. 😂

    But somehow — here we are.
    And honestly? It’s better than anything I could’ve planned.
    Not perfect. Not some Pinterest board 24/7.
    Just real. And really good.

    When I look around now… the baby, the work, the everyday memories we’re stacking — I feel nothing but grateful that I listened to myself.
    Even when it was easier to just isolate.
    Even when shutting down felt safer than risking being seen.
    Even when growing felt like too much.

    Choosing to stay soft, choosing love, choosing to show up for my own life — it didn’t steal anything from me.
    It gave me everything I didn’t even know I wanted yet.

    And the wild part?
    It’s still just getting started.
    More babies. More businesses. More memories I haven’t even dreamed up yet.

    All because I decided to bet on myself and stay open when the good stuff came in.

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    Big shoutout to the amazing models for this shoot: Sarah, Hammad, Sydney, and Olivia! And a huge thank you to photographer Georgia and the ZEAL media team for bringing it all together. We’re so grateful for everyone involved in making this shoot come to life! Stay tuned for more!

  • Small Town Telephone: The Subtle Art of Using Others

    Small Town Telephone: The Subtle Art of Using Others

    Secrets, Lies, and the Unseen Web of Opportunity

    In a small town, nothing stays secret for long—especially when every conversation is a thread in a web of rumours, alliances, and hidden motives. One casual chat at lunch can set off a chain reaction that spirals out of control. You might not even know it’s happening, but trust me—someone is watching, listening, and waiting for their moment to use it to their advantage.

    Talk to Kim after work. Kim’s sister? She’s the one who “stalks” you on Instagram but acts like you’re invisible in public. And in the blink of an eye, what started as a simple exchange can become ammunition in a battle you didn’t even know you were fighting.

    In a small town like this, it’s not just about who you know—it’s about who’s using you, and who’s about to turn the tables.

    PROOF

    Click, Flash – Screenshot. Did you forget the trail you left behind? It’s curious how quickly admiration can shift when it’s easier to rewrite the story. Did you forget how much you loved it?

    One moment, It’s admiration and validation; the next, denial and shifting.

    Here’s the thing: People’s perceptions of you are fluid—and often, they aren’t about you at all. They’re about the context, the relationships, and the insecurities others project onto you. That’s why one day you’re the hero, and the next, you’re a ghost.

    So, how do you deal with it? First, don’t internalize the shift. Admiration and validation may feel good, but they are external factors, and they don’t define your worth. Secondly, don’t chase the approval of others. Instead, find validation within yourself. When the pendulum swings from admiration to denial, the only person who can truly validate you is you.

    Why Some People Want You to Chase Them –

    1.) It Feeds Their Ego: When someone knows you’re chasing them, it makes them feel good about themselves. They feel important and wanted, which boosts their confidence and self-esteem.

    2.) They Enjoy the Game: For some, the chase itself is exciting. Keeping you interested and unsure makes them feel powerful. It adds drama and keeps things interesting for them.

    3.) They’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable: Some people keep you chasing because they’re afraid to get too close or open up. By keeping their distance, they protect themselves from getting hurt or rejected.

    4.) They Want Control: By having you chase them, they stay in control of the relationship. They decide when to be close and when to pull away, which can make them feel secure.

    Using Others for Growth (From a Healthy Perspective)

    1.) Use others as a mirror to build self-worth
    When someone makes you chase them, it’s an opportunity to reflect on your own sense of self-worth. Instead of seeking validation from them, you can use this experience to remind yourself that your value comes from within, not from someone else’s approval.

    2.) Use emotional detachment to gain perspective
    Chasing someone can make you emotionally entangled. Use this situation to practice detachment, learning to care for people without letting their actions control your emotional state. By detaching, you gain more clarity and control over your feelings.

    3.) Use the opportunity to master emotional control
    When you’re in a chase, emotions can run high—frustration, insecurity, or doubt. Use these moments to practice emotional control! Learning to stay calm and centered, no matter the circumstances. This strengthens your emotional resilience and helps you respond rather than react.

    Fun Ways to Celebrate Your Growth After Overcoming the Chase

    Throw a “Victory” Party (Just for You)

    Sometimes the best celebrations are solo.

    • Movie marathon: Watch your favourite feel-good movies or binge-watch a series you’ve been putting off.
    • Dance party: Put on your favourite playlist and dance around your living room like no one’s watching. Let loose and celebrate your freedom.
    • Guilt-free treat: Order your favourite meal or dessert (ice cream, pizza, sushi—whatever feels like a treat) and savour it.

    Follow along for more insider tips on how to become the most upgraded version of yourself—whether it’s mastering emotional control, setting healthy boundaries, or learning to love yourself more fully.

    • The M in the Middle: When Motivation Masks the True Creative Drive

      The M in the Middle: When Motivation Masks the True Creative Drive

      In a world where opportunities often disguise themselves, it’s easy to mistake that self serving drive—an ego chasing validation – for true growth. When someone enters your space with smooth words but a hollow intent, it’s time to ask yourself: Why are they using me? And why can’t they create what they desire on their own? This story explores the line between trust and exploitation, between real inspiration and those who come only to take.

      In a neon-lit city, where creativity thrived and innovation pulsed through the streets, there was a shop unlike any other. It wasn’t just a place to buy—it was a space where energy and inspiration merged, each piece crafted with a depth and authenticity that people could feel the moment they walked in. The owner, a woman who could shift her form as fluidly as the city’s ever changing pulse, infused the shop with her spirit. Some days, it felt organic, calm, with soft lighting and natural lines; other days, it was bold and electric, filled with sharp angles and vivid colours. The shop reflected her—always adapting, but always alive with creativity.

      One day, a figure entered. They were sleek, dressed in clothes that seemed to shift with each movement, their gaze sharp and penetrating. When their eyes met hers, there was something unsettling about it. It wasn’t curiosity or warmth—it was cold, calculating, filled with a quiet pride, as if they knew more than she did. But, she reminded herself to trust, to open her heart as she had been asked to do. Maybe this was the connection she had been waiting for.

      The figure spoke of collaboration—of blending visions, of creating something bigger than both of them. Their words were smooth, their tone confident. For a moment, the shopkeeper allowed herself to believe it was a connection she could grow with. She shared the heart of her work, the long hours, the passion, the risk that made every creation real. She opened herself to the possibility, hoping it could help the vision evolve.

      Days later, a new shop appeared on the same street. At first, she thought nothing of it, but as she looked closer, something felt wrong. The designs, the colours, the energy…it was all too familiar. Her heart dropped. The figure hadn’t come to collaborate—they had come to steal. They had used her heart to take what wasn’t theirs and twist it into something hollow, serving ego.

      The whispers spread quickly. The new shop was sleek and polished – The designs were the same, the energy was the same, but it lacked the soul. The authenticity that made her creations come alive was gone, felt to be replaced by a surface-level imitation.

      But the shopkeeper didn’t linger on it for long. As soon as the realization hit, something inside her shifted. It was like a veil had lifted, and she finally understood: creativity wasn’t something you could steal. It wasn’t a commodity to be taken, repackaged, and sold. It was a pulse—a living force that couldn’t be replicated.

      And so, she changed. She shape-shifted—not just in form, but in spirit. She moved on, slipping away from the city that tried to capture her essence. No one could find her now, no one could trace the source of her inspiration. She was gone—fading like a shadow, always ahead, always shifting.

      Her work, however, lived on untouched, untraceable. The city could attempt to copy, to mimic, but they would never find the spark that made it real. The true source of her creativity was forever hidden, constantly evolving, just out of reach.

      The advice behind this story is about recognizing when someone is trying to take advantage of you and how to avoid it. Here’s how you can protect yourself:

      1. Ask Questions: If someone wants something from you, ask them questions about what they really want. Genuine people will have specific answers. Those looking to take advantage will give vague or general responses.
      2. Trust Your Own Voice: Don’t judge someone by their title or what others say about them. Focus on who they are to you. Your own experience with them matters more than anyone else’s opinion.
      3. Stay Open but Guarded: Be willing to connect with others, but also know when to step back. Not every person or opportunity is worth your time. Rotten fruit falls on its own—you don’t need to waste your energy trying to fix it.

      In short, trust your instincts, ask the right questions, and don’t let others use you. Stay true to yourself and let people prove their worth. 

      Clout chasers, fakes, and foes—
      Who’s real, and who’s just waiting to be exposed?
      Only you know, with those words that trigger,
      Maybe it’s time for you to look a little deeper.

      Creative Team

      A big thank you to everyone who made this vision come to life. Your talent and hard work made all the difference.

      • Makeup and Hair: Rayna and her team @estheticzbrayna, you worked magic to create the perfect looks.
      • Photography: @okanganportraits, your shots captured the essence of the shoot beautifully.
      • Media and Social Management: Zeal Social Management, thanks for handling the digital side and helping us share the project with the world.
      • Set and Makeup Concept: @_ge0de, your creativity set the tone and brought everything together.
      • Model: Kirat @kirat_d, your energy and presence brought the concept to life in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
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