Category: Zeal Unity

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  • The Strategic Art of the NDA

    The Strategic Art of the NDA

    Spring 2026 is about clarity. Small shifts, better habits, and thinking sharper. This issue is built to give you real, useful insight you can actually use. Understand people better, move with awareness, and stay grounded. Keep what matters, drop what doesn’t, and show up stronger in your life, work, and relationships.

    Credits

    Creative Direction: ZEAL Social Management
    Media: Autumn (ZEAL Social) @am.media_
    Edited in house: ZEAL
    Assistant: Freya
    Model: Deep (ZEALUNITY)
    Clothing Brand: Julian Bontorin, Owner of JB Gear

    Disclaimer

    This content is intended for awareness and general insight only.

    Growth requires trust, consistency, and clear intention. Without those, what you are building can be influenced or misaligned. You are responsible for how you protect your energy, your work, and your environment.

    Not everyone will use or need formal agreements like an NDA. However, as you grow and move through new spaces, it is your responsibility to stay aware of how people, information, and opportunities move around you.

    This is not about fear. It is about clarity and personal accountability.

    If any part of this resonates with you, take it as an opportunity for self reflection. Your reaction is your own, and often points to something worth understanding within yourself.

    The Strategic Art of a NDA

    ZEALUNITY

    ZEALUNITY is one of the growing communities in our circle. It started from a simple feeling, wanting to give opportunities to creative people who were ready, but hadn’t been picked yet.

    Talented, positive, creative individuals who could see a version of themselves they wanted to become, but just needed space to actually start. People wanting to take photos, create content, and build something the way they imagined it, then use it to push themselves forward.

    As it grew, we started reaching out around the Kelowna area. Offering free shoots, studio time, and creative direction. Everything was self funded through our other work, just to keep things moving and give people a real chance to create.

    Early connections and distance

    At one point, we reached out to a new creative space that had just started forming. They were also building something in the same world, so we sent a message about collaborating. No payment, no expectations, just the idea of creating together.

    There was no response, only a follow and a like. So we kept building.

    We continued creating anyway, working with brands and growing our own community. Over time, we noticed that same space still engaging from a distance, watching and interacting without direct connection.

    First wave of momentum

    Then a fashion event launched in Kelowna for the first time, inspired by larger scenes elsewhere. Our group was fully in it, planning, submitting, and creating together.

    That excitement is exactly what ZEALUNITY was built for.

    The first year, one of our photographers attended alongside a few of our models. We secured a media pass so they could document the experience from inside.

    We posted the content we created from that event, focusing on confidence, growth, and what happens when creatives are actually supported. The response was strong. More people started reaching out, wanting to join, collaborate, and be part of the community.

    Growth and visibility

    By the second year, things had expanded. I had stepped into a main editor role at 23 magazine, and our community had grown to a larger group attending the yearly event together.

    This time, access was more limited and structured, which was understandable as things scaled.

    The photographer we had originally sent ended up being hired directly by the event, which was a proud moment for us. Watching someone from our circle step into that space felt like growth coming full circle.

    Around this same period, one of our original community members, also a close friend, was asked to be featured on the cover of a magazine being launched that year by the same event space. This was the first issue, and it came from the same team that we had originally reached out to years ago when ZEALUNITY first started and were still building everything from the ground up.

    That moment mattered. It reflected what we had always been building toward, people growing through the community and stepping into bigger opportunities.

    We supported it fully.

    The shift in dynamics

    As things continued, we brought in a new creative who, like everyone else, was learning through real experience inside the community.

    That creator was later invited into fittings and prep for that same external event space.

    When expectations were not fully met in that environment, we received a direct message from the same event team that had previously featured our community member on their magazine cover, and who we had originally reached out to years ago when ZEALUNITY first began.

    In that message, they expressed that the individual had been unprofessional and suggested that we should have trained them better, stating that we should understand how to prepare people as an agent/Agency

    We responded clearly that we are not an agency. We are a community. People learn through experience, not instruction.

    There was no response.

    The overlapping situation

    At the same time, another creator we had been working with closely for over a year was actively in paid collaboration within ZEALUNITY.

    They were consistently shooting with us, stepping into a more established creative role, and growing through ongoing investment, direction, and opportunity inside our system.

    Shortly after the message we received from the event team, that same team began directly engaging with this paid creator from our community.

    When we asked the creator directly, they shared that they had already been approached by that event space and were being considered for involvement in their upcoming event. They also said they were planning to work across both spaces at the same time.

    So while one message came to us questioning our ability to “train” people properly, the same space was simultaneously onboarding and pulling in the exact individuals we were actively developing, supporting, and creating within our own structure.

    The timing made it feel less like separate situations and more like a connected pattern unfolding in real time.

    Structure and boundary

    At this point, we asked for clarity moving forward if the creator intended to continue working at the same level of involvement within ZEALUNITY while also stepping into external roles.

    Not as control, but as structure. If someone is involved in everything we are building, then alignment and protection of ongoing work matters.

    That included an NDA, simply to protect the creative process, direction, and systems we were actively developing together.

    They chose not to sign it, and decided to step away.

    Patterns and perspective

    Over time, we started noticing similarities in language, tone, and creative direction across different spaces. Even ideas that had naturally grown inside our community began appearing elsewhere in ways that felt very familiar.

    Community over competition was something that came from a real place for us. Not a trend, but something built while trying to create space for people instead of competition.

    Seeing similar messaging reused in different contexts made us start paying closer attention to intention versus coincidence.

    We also began noticing past community members stepping into other spaces, getting opportunities, and then being showcased in those environments.

    Nothing about that is negative. People grow and move. But it did start to reveal how fluid creative ecosystems really are.

    Closing reflection

    Later, that same creator stepped further into a role within that external event space.

    And from there, things became clearer.

    It was never just about one person or one moment. It was about direction, timing, and where people see themselves going next.

    Inside the community, people were building, learning, and stepping into roles they once did not have access to. Outside, those same people were moving into larger platforms shaped by similar energy.

    And that revealed something important.

    When you build something from the ground up, you are also shaping the pathways people eventually walk into.

    Over time, another truth became clear.

    Protect your work. Protect your direction. Protect what you are building while it is still forming.

    Not everyone who enters your space will fully understand what they are stepping into, and not everyone will move with the same awareness or intention.

    That is why structure matters. Boundaries matter. Clarity matters.

    Stay aware of where your energy is going and how it moves through the people around you. Not everything is intentional, but that does not make it harmless.

    And if you are not grounded in who you are or what you are building, it becomes easy to be shaped by other people’s direction instead of your own.

    That is the lesson.

    Stay clear. Stay steady. Move with intention.

    15 ways to find out who the snitch is

    Not everything that looks like support is actually aligned. Sometimes the clearest way to understand energy in a space is to watch what moves without being said out loud.

    This is less about paranoia and more about pattern recognition. People reveal themselves in timing, reactions, and what they repeat when they think no one is watching.

    1. Say something slightly untrue and observe what spreads
      Not to create harm, but to understand movement. If something private or loosely shared suddenly becomes public knowledge, you learn quickly where information flows.
    1. Watch who mirrors you too closely
      There is a difference between inspiration and imitation. Pay attention to people who reflect your language, energy, or ideas too fast. Ask yourself if it feels like admiration or extraction.
    1. Notice who benefits most from your openness
      Some people feel warm in your presence but use that access elsewhere. If someone consistently gains clarity, ideas, or opportunity from you but does not build with you, that pattern speaks for itself.
    1. Pay attention to who gets defensive when you are honest
      When you express discomfort or truth, some people hold space. Others immediately shift into defence mode. One creates understanding, the other reveals pressure points.
    1. Watch who changes tone when certain names are mentioned
      Energy shifts are information. If someone’s behaviour changes when specific people or spaces come up, that reaction usually says more than their words.
    1. Notice who asks questions that feel like collection, not connection
      There is curiosity that builds relationship, and curiosity that gathers information. The difference is in intent and repetition.
    1. See who stays close during growth, but distant during tension
      Some people enjoy access when things feel light. But distance often shows up when clarity, accountability, or alignment is needed.
    1. Track who repeats your ideas elsewhere without context
      It is not about ownership of ideas, but about timing. If something that lived in your space appears elsewhere suddenly, it is worth noticing where it travelled from.
    1. Pay attention to who aligns publicly but acts differently privately
      Consistency is a signal. If behaviour changes depending on audience, that split often reveals intention.
    1. Notice who becomes overly interested in your structure
      When someone focuses more on how things are built than participating in building, it is worth understanding why.
    1. Watch who gathers information but rarely shares anything real back
      One-sided openness creates imbalance. Relationships should circulate energy, not extract it.
    1. Observe who distances themselves after being questioned
      Accountability tends to clarify intention. People who disappear after simple questions often were never aligned in the first place.
    1. Notice who becomes close right before opportunity shifts
      Timing matters. Sometimes proximity increases right before access changes or doors open elsewhere.
    1. Pay attention to who aligns with everyone, but belongs nowhere
      Some people adapt to every space without grounding in any. That flexibility can be connection, or it can be strategy.
    1. Trust what repeats, not what is said once
      Intentions show through patterns, not moments. If something keeps repeating in different forms, it is not coincidence anymore, it is information.

    JB Gear — In the Camouflage

    In this latest addition, we wanted to highlight an all around creative who fits right into the thicker layer of what this issue has been circling around. Camouflage, not in the sense of hiding, but in the sense of how energy blends, shifts, and reveals itself when you are paying attention.

    Julian is someone who has been a steady presence in the Kelowna and surrounding creative space for years. Not loud in a performative way, but noticeable in the way his work and energy moves through people without needing explanation.

    There is something about smaller creative environments that can get dense fast. Circles form, influence builds, and suddenly it can feel like visibility is tied to proximity instead of intention. Where people start adapting to whatever is already established instead of staying rooted in what they are actually building.

    That is where the idea of camouflage becomes interesting. Because in spaces like that, you start to see who blends in for access, and who blends in because they are simply grounded in themselves.

    Julian sits in the second.

    He does not push himself into rooms through noise or positioning. He shows up, stays consistent, and lets his work speak without forcing direction onto others. That kind of presence does not demand attention, but it holds it.

    When we reached out to Julian to create on a last minute shoot, he was open to the concept immediately. No overthinking, just alignment with the idea and willingness to build.

    We shot this content in winter with our media and model team. He walked into the studio without knowing either of them beforehand, and still moved through the space with ease. No tension, no need to control the environment, just natural collaboration.

    And in a theme that has been running through this issue, that matters more than it seems.

    Because in creative spaces, you start to notice that intention reveals itself in how people behave when they are not familiar with the room.

    Julian does not rely on familiarity to feel stable in a space. He builds stability through how he shows up.

    He runs his own brand, works alongside other creatives, and continues building in his own direction without needing to attach himself to every opportunity that passes through.

    He is grounded in his own lane, but still collaborative in a way that feels real, not transactional.

    A reminder that not everything in a creative environment needs to be loud to be solid. Some people are not trying to stand out in the camouflage. They are just consistent enough that they do not need to.

    Julian Bontorin
    Graduate of Fashion Design and Technology at The Wilson School of Design

    Highest Alignment Routine

    This spring, step into the version of you that is actually ready.

    Not the version you outgrew. Not the one you shrink into when life gets loud. The one that stands on what it believes in, moves toward what it wants without hesitation, and protects its inner world even when nobody is watching.

    Alignment is not becoming someone new. It is staying with yourself while everything else shifts.

    Here is the reset. Simple. Real. Daily.

    Sleep

    Are you actually sleeping, or just functioning on empty

    Sleep is not optional. It is your clarity, your mood, your decisions, and your emotional stability.

    Life will always take energy from you. School, work, stress, family, anxiety. But if nothing is refilling you, you stay in survival mode.

    You do not need more burnout. You need a clear mind that can actually lead you somewhere.

    Eating

    Are you actually fuelling yourself or just getting through the day

    Food is not just a task. It is what keeps you steady.

    Your focus, strength, patience, and energy all come from what you consistently give your body.

    When you are under-fuelled, everything feels harder than it is.

    Stay fed. Stay steady. Stay capable.

    Taking care of yourself

    This is your reset point.

    It does not need to be perfect. It just needs to exist.

    Shower. Skincare. Movement. Gym if you can. Journaling if your mind is loud. A few minutes of presence instead of reaction.

    These are not small things. They are structure. They are what keep you connected to yourself.

    Quick Routines for a Reset Season

    Scroll slowly. Pick what you need. Keep what works.

    A simple set of tools to bring you back into alignment this spring. Nothing complicated. Just real structure for real life.

    Easy Prep Meals

    Chicken Bowl
    Cook chicken breast with olive oil, salt, pepper, garlic, and paprika.
    Serve with rice or quinoa, cucumber, spinach, and a simple yogurt or garlic sauce.
    Easy to batch, easy to repeat, no thinking required.

    Veggie Bowl
    Roasted sweet potato, zucchini, and bell peppers with olive oil and herbs.
    Add chickpeas or lentils for protein. Top with avocado or tahini.
    Warm, grounding, and steady energy.

    1 At Home Workout Routine

    No gym needed. Just consistency.

    Warm up
    Light stretch or jumping jacks for 2 to 3 minutes

    Main circuit (repeat 3 to 4 rounds)
    Squats x 15
    Push ups x 10 (or knees if needed)
    Lunges x 10 each leg
    Plank x 30 to 45 seconds
    Glute bridges x 15

    Finish
    Stretch your legs, back, and shoulders for 5 minutes

    The goal is not perfection. The goal is showing up.

    Journal Prompts for Spring

    What version of me am I outgrowing right now

    Where am I forcing energy that does not feel aligned anymore

    What actually makes me feel calm and grounded lately

    What am I building that I am proud of even if no one sees it yet

    What habits are keeping me stuck in old energy

    If I fully trusted myself this season, what would I change first

    Nighttime Routine (Males + Females)

    Step 1
    Put your phone away or on do not disturb for at least 20 to 30 minutes before sleep

    Step 2
    Shower or wash your face, reset your body

    Step 3
    Skincare or basic hygiene routine, keep it simple and consistent

    Step 4
    Light stretch or just slow breathing for a few minutes to release tension

    Step 5
    Write down anything on your mind so it is not looping while you sleep

    Step 6
    Go to bed at a consistent time as often as possible

    Sleep is not just rest. It is how you reset your entire system for the next day.

    Huge thank you to you guys for reading and supporting our journey. It really means a lot more than we can put into words. We love you all and we are so excited to keep creating, sharing, and connecting with you as we grow.

  • Packing For Labour Made Easy

    Packing For Labour Made Easy

    I’m 24 and about to give birth to my second baby, and packing for the hospital is still a wild ride. From what I learned the first time to the little hacks I am adding this time, I am sharing exactly what’s in my bag and my baby’s bag, so you can see what is really essential and what is totally extra. Think first time mom confessions, second time survival tips, and everything you need to make delivery day as cozy and stress free as possible.

    24 And Having Baby Number Two

    I am approaching my due date in February and I have completed my hospital bags, with just a few things still left to pack. This time around, I feel a lot less anxious, but I still worry I will get there and feel like I do not have everything I need. The first time I went, to be honest, I left the same day with my son. I did not stay the night and wanted to come home right away, so everything I brought, I did not really use. But the things I did use, I know are my personal essentials. This time, I am definitely planning to stay, as my first is now a toddler and I need some rest before going home. Everything we are bringing for me and baby is cute, cozy, and practical.

    Comfy Essentials For Mom

    The last time I was in labour, I made sure to bring all the little things, but not the major essentials. I was very cold in the hospital, and I gave birth in July! This time around, it will be winter, so here are the things I am making sure to bring to stay cozy, comfortable, and ready for baby.

    What to pack:

    • Sweaters – Layering is key in the hospital, especially in winter. They keep you warm during downtime and skin-to-skin moments.
    • Cozy pants and pajamas – Comfort first. These are perfect for resting, sleeping, and lounging without feeling restricted.
    • Maternity bras – Easy for feeding and provide support while nursing.
    • Cozy socks – Hospital floors are often cold, so keep your feet warm.
    • Big, comfortable underwear – Extra padding and room make postpartum life so much easier.
    • Comfy shorts – In case you get a bit warm or need to move around comfortably.
    • Oversized tee shirts – Great for layering and easy to change into; plus, I pack a couple of nicer daytime shirts to feel fresh and put together.
    • Robe – Perfect for after a shower or just as a loose, cozy option to wear around the hospital.

    Baby’s Bag Essentials

    With Sabo, we had him in swaddles most of the time. The hospital provides a few items and even helps wrap your baby for you. They also gave him a little hat and had a whole cart of essentials just for him, like diapers, wipes, and creams. It was enough for a two-day stay, but they do not provide clothing. They do give towels, a little blanket, and other necessary items, but anything else you want your baby to wear, you will need to bring yourself. Here is what we are packing for our daughter this time.

    What we packed for our daughter:

    • Three pairs of pajamas – Comfortable for sleeping and lounging in the hospital.
    • One swaddle – For cozy, secure sleep and skin-to-skin time.
    • Two blankets – One for warmth and one for extra comfort.
    • Three hats – To keep her little head warm.
    • Two sets of hand coverings – To protect tiny hands from scratches.
    • Four pairs of socks – To keep her feet cozy.
    • One daytime outfit – For photos or just to feel a little dressed.
    • One going-home outfit – Cute, practical, and ready for the car ride.
    • Onesies and sleepers – Soft and comfy for tiny toes.
    • Diapers and wipes – For easy changes during the hospital stay.
    • Soft cloths – Perfect for wiping up milk or for her first bath at the hospital.

    Going Home Outfit

    For the going home outfit, we’re keeping it cozy and practical. Fleece bottoms, a long sleeve top, and a sweater without a hood make for a comfy car ride. We will pair it with a cute hat, mitts, socks, and warm shoes and add a soft blanket over the car seat to keep the baby snug all the way home.

    Favourite Extra Item

    One of my all-time favourite items after giving birth was my belly wrap. I put that thing on right after delivery, and let me tell you, it helped so much. I felt supported, and it made the transition a lot easier for bending over, picking things up, or just moving in general. Not only does it help your body recover, but it adds a lot of support to your lower back and core when everything still feels tender.

    Other comforting extras:

    • Cozy blanket – Perfect for snuggling baby during your stay.
    • Sentimental keepsake – A small personal item to make the experience feel special.
    • Comfort snack or drink– For quick moments of calm in between.
    • Headphones for labour – Whether it’s music, meditation, or your favourite playlist, they help you stay focused and calm through contractions.

    Postpartum & Comfort Essentials

    These are a few things that made my hospital stay so much more comfortable and helped me feel more like myself after giving birth. Some of them might not be essentials, but they make a big difference when you are in a space that can feel a little unfamiliar.

    This time around I am packing a few things that made a huge difference last time, and a few new ones that I wish I had brought sooner.

    Postpartum bottle: Perfect for when wiping feels super painful, even with wipes. Just fill it with water and spray the area. It feels so much better than trying to wipe down there.

    Breast pads: A must-have for leaking. You can slip them into your maternity bra to catch those moments and stay comfortable.

    Disposable underwear: The hospital gives you some, but these ones are perfect for after or when you do not want to keep asking for more. They are stretchy, comfortable, and made to be thrown away without creating harmful waste.

    Personal hospital gown: This was super important to me. The normal gowns only open at the back and stay open, which felt uncomfortable. When I had my first, I got mine off Amazon. It had buttons that opened and closed where I needed, not always open or restrictive. It made a big difference, especially when the baby came.

    Breastfeeding pillow: Helps with your abs and gives great support so you do not feel like you have to hold the baby up while lying in bed.

    Breastfeeding cover: I’m bringing one this time so I do not have to wear only easy access clothing. Honestly, when I was looking online, nothing looked cute to me, so I bought pieces I would actually wear at home or out. The cover gives me privacy while letting me look down at my baby and still wear things that make me feel like myself.

    Toiletries: A huge must in feeling fresh and grounded while you are in a space that can feel a bit mentally draining.

    Towel and shower shoes: Last time I brought Crocs, and this time I’m packing both Crocs and slippers. Perfect for keeping clean and comfy in the hospital bathroom.

    Robe: Great for after a shower or just as a loose, cozy option to wear around the room.

    Cloths: Handy for wiping milk or when your baby has their first bath. Those little moments can get messy quickly.

    Vicks: Helps with congestion or just to feel clear and refreshed.

    Slippers: Keep your feet warm and cozy during your stay.

    Headphones: Perfect for labour to tune out noise, listen to music, or focus on your breathing.

    These little things might not seem huge, but they truly help you feel more like yourself during such a big moment.

    Hospital Bag Toiletries Essentials

    Here are my toiletries. To be honest, taking a shower after birth and just putting on fresh clothes, brushing your hair, and doing your routine made me feel so much more relaxed.

    The first time we stayed, we were there for around 14 hours before heading home. I had a shower, ate two meals, took a nap, and honestly felt amazing. This time around, I’m making sure I have everything I need to feel refreshed and comfortable again.

    Face wash: To gently cleanse and wake up your skin after labour.

    Leave-in conditioner: Keeps your hair soft and easy to manage when you might not have time for a full routine.

    Body lotion: Helps hydrate your skin and brings a bit of comfort after a long day.

    Pillow or room spray: Makes the hospital room feel more like home and helps you relax before resting.

    Extra conditioner: Because hospital air can be super dry and your hair might need a little more love.

    Mini shampoo and conditioner: Perfect travel size for a quick refresh without overpacking.

    Night serum: Helps your skin recover and feel nourished, especially after the long hours of labour.

    Body wash: Just something that feels good and smells fresh — a small way to feel normal again.

    Hair ties: You’ll thank yourself for packing a few extra.

    Tooth brush: Super Important!!

    These little comforts make a big difference when you’re recovering, bonding with your baby, and just trying to feel human again.

    Before You Leave

    Make sure you have everything ready so the trip to the hospital is smooth and stress-free.

    Birth plan: Have your preferences on hand so you can share them with your care team.

    Wallet and documentation: Keep your ID and insurance cards together in one place.

    Car seat: Install it in your car by 24 weeks to be ready ahead of time.

    Phone charger: Stay connected and capture all the special moments.

    Headphones: Perfect for relaxing during the ride or preparing for labour.

    Water and snacks: Keep hydrated and energized for the journey and early recovery.

    Final Thoughts

    Packing for the hospital can feel overwhelming, but having your essentials ready makes such a difference. From clothes and toiletries to little comfort items and your baby’s must-haves, each item helps you feel more prepared, relaxed, and supported during such a big moment.

    I hope sharing my hospital bag gives you some helpful ideas and inspiration for your own stay.

    If you want more tips, behind-the-scenes moments, or just want to reach out, follow me on Instagram @Taylor.cookk. I would love to hear from you and connect!

  • Growing Up Without a Village: How to Build One From Scratch

    Growing Up Without a Village: How to Build One From Scratch

    Credits
    Photography by ZEAL Member Okanagan Portraits
    Models Jenayah, Deep, Ladi and Sydney from ZEALUNITY
    Edited In House
    Brand Black Mountain Haunted House

    When “If Only” Haunts You: A Survival Kit for Letting Go

    When you lie awake at night, thinking of what could be, do you find yourself replaying the moments that might have happened, or the ones that never did? Memories of what could have been done differently swirl in your mind, maybe with more love, maybe with more support. If only. If only. I had. I chose. I left. I knew.

    This article is for you. For the ones haunted by choices, who move through life one day at a time, learning to choose freedom over fear. Your guilt does not have to define you. The feeling of being alone does not make you weak. If no one checks in, if no one seems to care, it does not mean you have done anything wrong.

    Here is your survival kit for navigating life without a village. For thriving even when support is scarce. For finding strength in yourself.

    Finding Community and Courage at Black Mountain Haunted House

    One of our escapes this month was a visit to the local haunted house at Black Mountain. We got to dress up, believe in ourselves, be creative, and simply have fun. It is run by such wonderful people, and because it is local, it made our community feel at home and part of something bigger. Even when support does not come from the people we might want, our community steps up and creates moments that feel larger than life.

    Experiencing this space made me think about how people survived in the early days of life, huddled in groups, surrounded by cold, hunger, and discomfort. Imagining a world that chose closeness over isolation for the sake of collective survival. Just like in that haunted house, the warmth of community, creativity, and shared experience becomes a lifeline. It reminds us that to live, we must depend on others, our family, our friends, the people who keep us safe, not just for our own sake, but for theirs too.

    Yet, even with that understanding, life is not always so forgiving. Support is not always there. Family may be distant, friends may be absent, and the people we hope to lean on may not be around. In those moments, everything feels heavier, the cold bites deeper, and fear lingers longer. It can be hard to believe in yourself, to take risks, or to create joy alone. And yet even in that absence, connection can be found. It may come through small acts, through strangers who step in unexpectedly, through laughter, creativity, and courage. That haunted house reminded me that even when our inner circle is small, community still exists. It is in the people who show up, in the experiences that spark joy, and in the courage we summon within ourselves.

    In a world where support is not guaranteed, these fleeting moments of shared humanity become essential. They remind us that belonging and warmth are possible, even when we have to create them ourselves.

    Survival List: What to Do Without a Village

    Treat Yourself to Your Own Date Day

    Don’t have anyone around you to text about your problems or talk to? This doesn’t mean spending money or buying random things. It means taking care of yourself. Sit down. Think. Reflect on all the loving things you do. Remember all the ways you have grown and gotten to where you are today in a positive way. You don’t need anything to be happy. You need delusional positivity and hope. You, my friend, are exactly where you need to be, and everything is aligned for you. Just chill.

    Go Do Something Fun

    Even if it costs a little money or none at all. Our creators went to Black Mountain Haunted House. For a lot of our members, joining our community was about wanting to do something different, be creative, and have fun for themselves. Experiences like this remind us that doing things just for you is powerful.

    Don’t Feel Bad About Missing the Things You Left

    It’s human. You are brave enough to try something new, and human enough to feel nostalgia for what you left. It’s evolution.

    Live Life as If No One is Watching

    Because, honestly, who is? Let the feeling of uncertainty guide you, knowing that each day is a new beginning.

    Write Down How You Feel

    One day, when your community is around you, you might forget what you’ve been through. Being able to read your own words and relive those moments will help you realize how far you’ve come.

    Don’t Let Memories or Messages Pull You Back

    If you receive messages that say, “I remember the good old times,” remember that a lot of the time, those moments weren’t as perfect as they seem. Don’t let someone else’s projection ruin your mindset.

    Allow and Receive Love Without Guilt

    You might not have much to give right now, and that’s okay. The people meant to be around you don’t expect anything from you. They just want to love you for who you are.

    Quiz: What Do You Really Need Next?

    Answer these quick questions to figure out your next step when your village isn’t around:

    1. How are you feeling right now?
    A. Overwhelmed and drained
    B. Bored and restless
    C. Curious and excited

    2. Do you have time to focus on yourself today?
    A. Not really
    B. A little bit
    C. Yes, I can make time

    3. What makes you feel alive?
    A. Alone reflection
    B. Being creative or doing something new
    C. Spending time with people, even virtually

    4. How do you deal with missing people or your old life?
    A. I get stuck thinking about it
    B. I acknowledge it but try to move forward
    C. I channel it into a new experience

    Results:

    • Mostly A’s → Self-Care Reset: Take a solo day to recharge, reflect, and do something purely for yourself. Journaling, meditation, or a long walk can help.
    • Mostly B’s → Creative Boost: Try something creative just for fun. Paint, write, dress up, or explore a new hobby. Focus on experiences that make you feel like “you.”
    • Mostly C’s → Community Quest: Find ways to connect safely with people who lift you up. Virtual hangouts, workshops, or local events can help you find your people.

    Embracing the Hard Days

    Now this is all hard. It is not going to feel cozy or soft. Some days you might feel sad, scared, or worried about where you are going next or why you are even here in the first place. Trusting yourself and letting go of the outcome, all while maintaining a positive outlook, positive habits, and positive self-talk, will keep you moving forward. Eventually, the heaviness will not feel as heavy. It will feel like a bag of tools for your next adventure, helping you figure out who you are, without the need to be dependent on abundance.

    Think about the kind of house that raised you and ask yourself what kind of house you want to live in now.

    🎃 Halloween Treats That Won’t Break the Bank

    Halloween doesn’t have to mean spending a ton of money to have fun and feel festive. Whether you’re solo, with friends, or doing a cozy night in, these easy and cheap treats are perfect for getting into the spooky spirit. Think cozy lattes, sweet cornbread, and little DIY touches that make your night feel magical.. all without emptying your wallet.

    Grab your ingredients, get a little creative, and let’s make Halloween deliciously fun and totally budget-friendly!

    Budget-Friendly Pumpkin Spice Latte (Non-Alcoholic)

    Ingredients:

    • 1 cup milk (any kind, even powdered milk works)
    • 1–2 tsp pumpkin puree (optional, can skip if needed)
    • 1 tsp sugar or honey
    • 1/4 tsp pumpkin pie spice or cinnamon
    • 1/2 tsp vanilla extract (optional)
    • 1/2 cup strong brewed coffee or instant coffee

    Instructions:

    1. Heat milk in a small pot or microwave.
    2. Stir in pumpkin, sugar, and pumpkin pie spice until well combined.
    3. Mix in coffee and vanilla if using.
    4. Pour into a mug, top with whipped cream or a sprinkle of cinnamon.
    5. Sip and enjoy your cozy Halloween treat!

    💡 Tip: Skip the pumpkin puree or whipped cream to save money and still have a tasty latte.

    🎃 Cheap & Easy “Monster” Cornbread

    Ingredients:

    • 1 cup cornmeal
    • 1 cup flour (all-purpose or whatever you have)
    • 2 tbsp sugar
    • 1 tbsp baking powder
    • Pinch of salt
    • 1 cup milk (or water + a little butter/oil)
    • 1/4 cup melted butter or oil
    • 2 eggs (or 1 egg + 1/4 cup applesauce to save)

    Instructions:

    1. Preheat oven to 400°F (200°C) and grease a pan.
    2. Mix dry ingredients: cornmeal, flour, sugar, baking powder, and salt.
    3. Mix wet ingredients: milk, melted butter, and eggs.
    4. Combine wet and dry ingredients, stir until just mixed.
    5. Pour batter into the pan and bake 20–25 minutes until golden.

    💡 Tip: Add a few chocolate chips or a sprinkle of cinnamon sugar on top for a festive touch without spending much.

    🕸️ Not in the Baking Mood? Try This Halloween Self-Discovery Quiz!

    Answer these questions to find a fun, spooky activity that fits your vibe and mood tonight:

    🕯️ A Little Note Before You Go

    Whatever your environment looks like this season, know that you are loved, needed, and wanted. Halloween can bring up a lot.. it’s a time of magical energy for many. Remember to drink your juice, eat your food, and take care of yourself without feeling guilty or wrong about what’s already happened.

    Be accountable, take risks, and stay positive even when things feel uncertain. Sending you the very best and wishing you a safe, grounded, and meaningful Halloween. 🎃

  • What’s more terrifying than the haunted? The indifferent.

    What’s more terrifying than the haunted? The indifferent.

    The spirits you dread are nothing compared to your own choices.

    Credits
    Photography by Zeal Media Member @vinilsoodphotography
    Model — ZealUnity Model Sydney (@sydneyy.maye)
    All edits completed in-house by Zeal Media

    The Hollow Roots

    You feel it the moment October arrives. The wind moves like ice, slipping through streets, forests, and empty houses. Even the ground beneath your feet feels colder, heavier, carrying the taste of ash, iron, and silence.

    Once the world thrived. Laughter spilled across open fields. Roses blazed red in the sun. Rivers danced over stone. Life pulsed in harmony. But harmony is fragile and watching it crumble leaves scars the living often refuse to see.

    Monsters came. But these were not creatures of fang and claw. These were us. We tore through homes, shattered families, and silenced every cry for help. Cities rose from the ruins. Concrete devoured the horizon. Glass towers clawed at the sky. Smoke poured into the air and power replaced life. Speeches replaced truth. Promises replaced action. Blood soaked the ground beneath those who looked away. Children were buried in rubble. Rivers turned to poison. Nations were erased. The cost was never ours to bear or so we pretended. And in the wake of everything we ignored, there is silence.

    Silence from those who look away. Silence from those who cover their ears. Silence from those who choose comfort over truth. It is this inaction that allows cruelty to spread, that grows until it becomes a wall between people and what they should remember. Every lie left unchallenged, every injustice ignored, strengthens it. Every time someone pretends it is not happening, the weight grows. It presses down, unseen but relentless, like frost creeping over the bones of the world.

    This does not go unnoticed. It echoes in October when the veil between memory and forgetting thins. Whispers move through the trees, through walls, and through the cracks in a world that never healed. Every injustice ignored, every moment of turning away, adds weight to the air. The names of the forgotten slip through the cold and reach your ears. They do not forgive. They demand to be remembered.

    Every year more of them vanish. People wander too close to the places they once tried to erase. They laugh at the chill in the air, ignore the subtle murmurs, and tell themselves it is nothing. But it is not the wind that calls their name. It is the world remembering. It is the voices of the forgotten, rising through the dark, refusing to be silenced. The past does not rest. Every secret concealed, every truth denied, every act of indifference gives it strength.

    You are not safe. The earth holds every injustice, every lie, every time courage was abandoned for comfort. The murmurs are growing, closer, sharper, impossible to dismiss. The walls around you feel thinner, the air heavy with ash and iron. You can feel it now. The reminder that what was buried still stirs. The reckoning waits, patient and inevitable.

    Listen closely. If a voice calls in October, do not mistake it for the wind. If the ground shifts beneath your feet, do not stay still. The dead remember what the living try to forget. Those who turn away, who pretend not to see, will summon them. Ignoring the call will not protect you; it will trap you deeper than any earth or stone. Every unanswered cry, every glance averted from the truth, every moment of inaction becomes a summons you cannot escape. When the cold settles into your bones, it penetrates your marrow, into the very fibres of your being, until every breath reminds you that your inaction called them forth.

    When the murmurs rise into voices, there will be nowhere to hide. Floors groan under weight unseen. Doors tremble on their hinges. Windows shake as if something unseen presses against them. The walls seem closer, the air heavier, thick with a metallic tang that clings to your lungs. Every footstep echoes back at you, every creak in the house a reminder that nothing is as empty as it seems. Every heartbeat pounds a warning. Every shiver traces the paths of those lost long before you, their presence pressing into the spaces you once thought safe.

    Then you will hear them. Closer, sharper, undeniable. They do not plead. They do not beg. They demand acknowledgement and reckoning. There is no hiding. No door, no wall, no lock can shield you. No light can guide you away. Every movement, every glance, every choice you have made is marked and measured, reflected back in the spaces around you. Every sound seems amplified, every shadow filled with memory and accusation.

    When their voices grow insistent and the weight of what was ignored settles into your chest, you will understand: you are not alone. You have never been alone. Every act of turning away, every moment of comfort chosen over action, has called them forth. The reckoning is patient, but it has already begun, and it will not be denied.

  • Let July Upgrade Your Life — Naturally

    Let July Upgrade Your Life — Naturally

    Tips from our community on using the July glow to level up naturally with soft mornings, fresh routines, mindset shifts and low effort habits that bring high vibe results.

    Credits
    Photography: G.fields_photos (ZEAL Media Team)
    Editing: In-house by ZEAL
    Models: Sydney, Savjeet, Hammad, Jenayah
    Location & Brand: Kelowna Flower Farms

    July in Kelowna

    What are you looking to accomplish?

    For some, July is about the closeness of friends and the laughter of summer adventures. For others, it’s solo missions, quiet wellness moments, and time to realign. And for many, it’s a mix of both.

    In our experience, letting yourself feel and move with the energy of the day brings the most peace. Some days are full of movement, purpose, and clarity. Others are slower — full of small tasks that don’t exactly feel like “summer joy.” But they’re part of it too.

    The truth is, in an ever-growing world, people, jobs, places, and things are constantly asking for your energy. And while committing to your goals is important, forgetting yourself in the process isn’t doing anyone a solid.

    When you fall out of routines you genuinely enjoy, even the little things become heavier. It adds up — to the point where you stop expecting happiness and freedom in your life.

    Don’t become a zombie. Don’t hand over your light.

    This month, we’re tapping into how our community is staying grounded, creative, connected, and still showing up for their responsibilities — without losing themselves in the noise.

    Because July is here to remind you: peace is productive too.

    Create Create Create

    We get it, UGC cringe is a thing. But is it really cringe, or is it just preparation, creation, and growth all wrapped up? If what you want is freedom — your voice, your story, making things that reflect you while capturing memories and opening doors to new experiences — then who is really there to stop you?

    Routines can look like anything. We will share some of our favourites further down, but one of the biggest values in our ZEAL community is letting our inner child come out to play.

    That excitement before you go out — maybe a little pre-drink, or a cup of tea, or a quick meditation. Maybe your hype playlist while you find the perfect outfit. Thinking through, What do I want to do today?

    That simple freedom to choose should feel like a light switch turning on inside you. Many do not have the chance to be this free, so why limit yourself by the standards of others?

    Here is what we do:

    First, we ask, What experience do I really want?
    Once we clock it, we commit.

    I am going to show up for it. I am going to put my energy into getting ready — or not — and get myself in the best mood possible. Maybe that is just being excited that I get to do something unique, something that is mine.

    Creating is not cringe. It is freedom in motion.

    Our Time Playing at Kelowna Flower Farms

    We had such a fun time creating with this incredible local brand that has been established in Kelowna for 20 years. At Kelowna Flower Farms, they specialize in top quality, unique plant material. As a California style garden centre, you are sure to find something spectacular.

    They grow rare varieties and carry trusted names like Monrovia to create custom patio plant designs and so much more. The farm is filled with tropical plants that promise to beautify your garden, patio, home, or business.

    Spending time there really took our community members out of their element. Being in a space that felt unfamiliar gave us that vacation feeling. A fresh environment that inspired and energized us. We stayed for around two hours accompanied by music playing softly on the speakers, which added to the vibe and made it a great place to just hang out.

    Before we left, we put together a mood board and collected inspiration photos from each member for their personal platforms, then we set off to create.

    Georgia even biked to the location on that beautiful day and was so happy pulling up to the site. The team opened just for us. It was such a warm and positive vibe from everyone there — definitely a place where you feel truly connected.

    How to Create the Perfect Outing Without Breaking the Bank

    You don’t have to spend a lot to make an outing feel special. Start by looking up local places around you. What we found is that reaching out to spots online — through Instagram or email — is an amazing way to get access to places that might feel a little exclusive.

    Send them a simple proposal. Something like: “Hey, me and my friends would love to come take some content and share our experience with you. Would you be interested in allowing us to visit and document our time?”

    Most of the time, if they respond, you’ll get a positive reply that can give you a serious energy boost all on its own.

    Here’s a little tip: offering to create content can sometimes get you a free experience or at least a discounted one. If you have a portfolio, this can open doors to serious paid opportunities down the line. It’s a mix of the thrill of enjoying it at no cost, building your portfolio, pitching to your next client, and—of course—having a really fun time.

    Take time to explore what you really love doing. Not everything has to involve money. Even if you can’t find a local spot or a way to get there, look for things you can create at home or nearby.

    Want to make your favourite drink and enjoy some fresh air? Look up a fun recipe and make it yourself, all while planning to savour some me-time outside.

    Content or no content, taking time out of your day to find what fuels you is how you naturally elevate with the seasons around you.

    Enjoy your experiences and find pleasure in every moment you create.

    Simple Routines to Make the Most of Your Summer Haze

    Whether you’re working full-time or have a free day ahead, there are little rituals that can turn your routine into something grounding, refreshing, and even exciting. Here’s how to find joy in both.

    On Working Days

    Start your day by being a little more intentional with your “get ready” time. That could mean putting on a playlist you love, doing your skincare in peace, making a beautiful breakfast, or stopping for your favourite iced coffee on the way. Even something as small as packing your favourite lunch can set the tone for the day.

    Try planning something to look forward to after work — and that doesn’t have to mean a big activity. You could have a long 12 to 16 hour shift ahead, and fun might just be curling up with your PJs and a snack you’ve been craving. Maybe it’s knowing you’re going to pour the last glass of that wine and binge your current Love Island obsession.

    No matter what your day looks like, giving yourself something to be excited about — even if it’s just peace and quiet — is just as important as fueling your body in the morning.

    On Free Days

    Here’s where you get to take back some control. Plan something — not to be productive, but to be intentional. That might mean getting outside with friends, taking yourself out for a little solo date, or even just catching up on life and chores while lighting a candle and putting on music you love.

    Flow with the energy of this is my day. You don’t need an extravagant plan. Just decide to make space for you — and let the rest unfold.

    Your Summer Routine Table

    Working Day TipsFree Day Tips
    Do a simple get-ready ritual to center yourselfSet one small intention for the day
    Make or grab your favourite morning drinkTreat yourself to a slow start (sleep in, no rush)
    Pack or plan a lunch that feels like a little giftGo out or stay in — but claim the space for you
    Plan a small treat or moment to look forward to after workRomanticize errands or chores with music and candles
    Make rest feel special: fav PJs, snack run, or a solo binge nightTry one fun thing (DIY spa day, walk, or hobby time)

    ✨ So whether you’re clocking in or lounging in, the secret to making your summer haze hit just right?
    Romanticize it. Intentionally. Softly. Loudly. However you need.

    And if your version of “fun” is wine + Love Island reruns in your comfiest pj’s? That’s iconic behavior.

    soft glow, iced coffee in hand, main character energy activated.

    Now go live your Pinterest board IRL. 🫶🌞

  • The OG Hater: Proof That You’re Doing Something Right

    The OG Hater: Proof That You’re Doing Something Right

    Same School, Same Circles…

    There’s always one. The first one to doubt you. The first one to whisper instead of support. The one who watched you glow and hated every second of it.

    This story is about that person.
    The OG Hater.

    Not a stranger. Someone real.
    Someone I actually grew up with.

    We went to the same schools. Our parents knew each other. We played on the same teams, shared group chats, talked about what we wanted to become. From the outside, it probably looked like we were close. And maybe we were, for a moment.

    At first, they weren’t a hater at all.
    In fact, they were in my corner or at least it seemed that way.
    We laughed together. Dreamed together. Made plans for the future. We talked about growing into something big.

    But the thing is, some people only support you as long as you stay beneath them.

    There were little signs I ignored — the backhanded compliments, the tone behind certain jokes.
    Like:
    “How do you pose like that when your butt’s not even that big?”
    Said like a joke. But it sat with me.

    As I started stepping into myself, owning my voice, my space, my vision, something shifted.
    The support faded.
    The sarcasm started.
    Suddenly, everything I did was “too much,” “weird,” or “just a phase.”

    That’s when I realized:
    She didn’t actually hate me.
    She hated that I was becoming everything she didn’t believe she could be.

    The Shift

    When you start evolving and stepping into who you’re meant to be, not everyone can keep up. Some people haven’t done the inner work, and instead of cheering you on, they project their own fears and insecurities onto you.

    That’s exactly what happened here.

    I wasn’t being “fake.” I was just becoming realer than I’d ever been.

    And they couldn’t handle it.

    Slowly, things changed. They stopped talking to me like they used to. They stopped congratulating me openly. They stopped inviting me to group hangouts I had been part of forever.

    The hardest part was that they didn’t even show up to my son’s first birthday and only told me the day of.

    I didn’t get it. It hurt.

    But the more I grew, the quieter they became.

    Still, they would ask me to go on walks and we did. It was always filled by noisy questions like, “How do you do that?” or “How do you…”

    That’s when I realized this wasn’t about friendship or support.

    They weren’t inviting me anywhere. They weren’t showing up for me even when I openly asked for support.

    Even when we talked about dreams, it was always followed by, “Don’t dream too big.”

    Honestly, that made me laugh. Like, girl, that’s literally what you’re supposed to do — dream big.

    When I Glowed Up, She Showed Out

    The hating became undeniable. My growth exposed something in her that was not easy to see at first.

    I tried to bring her along. I offered her chances to help me with projects and side gigs, things she had expressed interest in. It felt good to give back and watch friends support each other.

    But something switched.

    One night, over a bottle of wine, I shared my plans for a new project. I even gave her little notes on scheduled content. I was excited. I wanted us to work together on managing a page.

    Weeks passed, and I had to ask multiple times if she had made progress. What she presented was completely opposite to what we had discussed. Instead of working on the social media content like I asked, she wanted to pitch marketing drinks to the owner. I was literally the social media manager and was trying to bring her on as the marketer.

    It was a huge wake-up call. I was not sure if it was a complete miss or something more calculated.

    Later, with another project, I even paid her upfront trusting she would deliver. Weeks went by without any updates. When I messaged her, she said she was too busy and offered to return the money. I told her not to worry and said I would handle it myself. Then, I got a message with the completed project and an apology.

    Now I see her doing the same things I do, which is fine. Everyone has their own path. But damn, that was a shitty way to treat a friend.

    We are done.

    Real Talk — Haters Are Just Unhealed Mirrors

    I used to let this kind of energy hit me hard. It would affect me in ways I couldn’t always explain. There were days I wouldn’t even want to get out of bed. Moments I’d worked so hard for…big, joyful milestones— felt heavy because of it.

    But here’s what I’ve learned: everything I was doing, everything I was earning, was because I was telling my truth. I was walking fully in my truth. And that’s what makes people uncomfortable.

    Haters? They’re just unhealed mirrors. They look at you and see parts of themselves they don’t like. They doubt you, question you, and try to drain your energy so they can protect their own pain.

    No one can steal your light. They might try, or get inspired by you—which is honestly kind of cute. Because when you inspire someone to take that first step toward self-love, that’s powerful.

    But just because you trigger something deep inside them, something worse than the devil himself, and that starts them on a journey doesn’t automatically make them “woke” or enlightened. Sometimes it just means they’re carrying trauma. Beliefs and guilt that haunt them, trapping them in a false image of who they think they should be.

    They might stay stuck in those roles, hoping to avoid hate, but really they’re just silencing themselves. And that silence? It’s a slow death.

    To Anyone With an OG Hater Keep Going Anyway

    These are my words to you — the ones who don’t get congratulated enough.

    I remember hearing Rihanna say this in an acceptance speech: You don’t get congratulated enough. And honestly, I couldn’t agree more.

    Every hardship you face. Every day you get up. Every night you tuck yourself in. Every time you walk into a place you don’t want to be just because you have to.

    Being love and light in places that seem to crave darkness.

    You are amazing.

    You deserve the world.

    You are doing such an incredible job.

    Even when things aren’t perfect, you inspire the people around you to glow. You are the reason things are getting better for yourself and for those who quietly watch you.

    You are so amazing.

    Keep going. Keep shining. And leave behind anyone who wasn’t meant to sit at your table for the long haul.

    Marketing Tips for My OG Haters Who Secretly Love What I Do (You Know Who You Are)

    Okay, listen up. If you are one of those OG haters who low-key respects the grind and actually wants to glow up, I got some real insider tips for you straight from a self-taught baddie like meee.

    1. Slide Into Those DMs the Right Way
    Want to grow your clientele? Stop waiting for people to find you online or hoping ads will do all the work. Reach out directly but do not come across as desperate. If you do not have experience yet, begging online for work can make you look needy and that is a no-no. Be confident, be clear, and make your value obvious.

    2. Network Smarter Not Harder
    Promoting free work is cool but do not make it your whole brand. When you are constantly giving without boundaries, people can smell the weakness. That puts you in a vulnerable spot where others might use you because they know you will do whatever just to be seen. Set limits, value your time, and do not let anyone make you their doormat.

    3. Find Your People and Learn From the Best
    Want to mentor or be mentored? Do not try to go it alone. Put yourself under someone you truly vibe with, someone who inspires you and has the kind of growth you want. Build that genuine connection and grow together. Real relationships are better than fake followers any day.

    So if you are watching and want to stop being that OG hater and start being an OG creator, start here.

  • 💰 The $100,000 Bribe: When Money Isn’t a Blessing, It’s a Test.

    💰 The $100,000 Bribe: When Money Isn’t a Blessing, It’s a Test.

    The twisted reality behind gifts, guilt, and quiet control. A story told like a fairytale — for those who prefer fiction over facing the truth.

    $100,000.
    What would you do with it?

    For some, it’s a rebirth.
    For others, a receipt for silence.
    Freedom, debt, opportunity — or a slow unraveling of what you thought was real.

    What if it didn’t come as a prize… but as a whisper?
    A wink.
    A favor wrapped in fine print you were never allowed to read.
    A “gift” that came too fast, too easy, too loaded.

    However you meet your first 100K — job, loan, inheritance, betrayal — this isn’t about the number.
    It’s about the energy behind it.
    This post is your map to decoding the kind of wealth you’re manifesting… and whether you’re accidentally signing up for something you never asked for.

    I know what money can do.
    Growing up between Winnipeg and Westbank, 100K felt mythical.
    My parents fought over bills like the heat itself was optional.
    Fast food was a luxury — and Carl’s Jr. might as well have been Paris.
    Maybe they were broke. Maybe they just didn’t believe in indulging.
    Either way, I was raised to believe money meant you mattered.

    If you didn’t have it?
    You felt watched.
    Judged.
    Like everyone around you silently calculated how far you’d go just to feel worthy.

    When social media hit, I clung to community.
    It felt safer than wealth.
    Until one day someone from school showed up with everything I didn’t have, and I had to ask myself — how did they get that?

    That’s when the trust cracks began.
    When the “gifts” came in — from people who smile wide but talk little.
    The “you didn’t say thank you” energy wrapped in a bow of expectation.
    And I started wondering… What’s the price of love when it looks like money?

    So here’s the tea — in fairytale form.
    For the ones who love a good story.

    Let me tell you about Little Bear and the house he thought was his…

    🪞 Why Bear’s Porridge Was Never Going to Be Enough

    (a soft story about porridge, fish tanks, and figuring out what “mine” really means)

    Once upon a soft pink dawn in the Valley of Echo Pines, there lived a bear. But not your average, stompy, growly, wilderness kind of bear. No, no.
    This was Little Bear.
    He had fluffy curls, wore slippers shaped like stars, and liked his tea with lavender and just a touch of cream.

    Little Bear had a house. Well… sort of.

    The house was technically his. That’s what the Bears said, anyway.
    “All yours,” they cooed, handing him the keys.
    “As long as you put in your own coins and stay long enough to make porridge. Every day. The same kind, okay?”

    Easy enough. Little Bear loved porridge.
    He was raised on it. Warm. Familiar. Safe.
    Brother Bear liked it too — they’d giggle over gooey bowls while sitting on floor cushions embroidered with little moons.

    But over time, Little Bear started dreaming of more.
    He wanted a pet fish. A sparkly one that shimmered pink under the light.
    He wanted bigger kitchen shelves to store all his honey-lavender teas and dried hibiscus.
    He wanted a washer that didn’t sound like a dragon every time it cleaned his favourite soft robe.

    After all… it was his house, right?

    So off he went, spending his coins (all of them) on building the life he dreamed of.
    The biggest fish tank in all of Echo Pines. The kind that hummed with peace and whispered “you’re safe now.”
    He fed the fish by hand. Lit candles while it swam.
    His home glowed in a way that made him feel real. Like everything was finally soft and right and his.

    But then came a knock.

    The other Bears returned.
    They stood in the doorway, looked around, and frowned.
    The porridge wasn’t the same — it was sweeter now, made quicker, lighter.
    The house didn’t feel “right” to them anymore.

    But instead of asking how Little Bear was doing or why the fish mattered so much to him…
    They simply told him:

    “We’ve decided to let the house go.”

    Just like that.

    No mention of the love he had layered into every corner.
    No glance toward the sparkling fish tank, the shelves built with his own paws, the washer that finally worked.

    “Three moons,” they said. “You’ll need to be out by then.”

    Little Bear blinked.
    “But… I built this. I made this feel like home.”
    But their minds were already elsewhere.
    It wasn’t about him. It never really was.

    So what did Little Bear do?
    He gathered his fish. Packed his stars. Folded up every moment of love he’d poured into that house.
    And with soft sadness — and just a glint of clarity — he left.

    They gave him his coins back. That part felt neat.
    But the truth? Little Bear knew those coins didn’t come close to the energy he gave.
    He thought love would root him in that space.
    But now he understood:

    You can’t build forever in places that only wanted you for the version of you that made them comfortable.

    So he started again.
    Somewhere softer.
    Somewhere quieter.
    Somewhere his fish could glow without question.

    And Little Bear?
    He didn’t stop making porridge.
    He just made it a little sweeter.
    For himself.

    👀✨ The Real Gag? Little Bear Isn’t Just a Story — It’s a Whole Warning.

    Let’s be real for a second:
    A lot of people are like Little Bear.

    Soft. Loyal.
    The kind who see good in things just because their heart is built that way.
    The kind who hear “it’s yours” and believe it.
    The kind who pour their whole soul into something — a home, a person, a dream — and never question the fine print.

    But what if that gift wasn’t really a gift?
    What if the “freedom” you were handed came with a script written by someone else?

    Listen — this is your friendly reminder that not every act of kindness is clean.
    Sometimes that overly generous offer is actually just a leash with glitter on it.
    Sometimes people overpay not because they value you…
    But because they want to own you later.

    Ever get that weird pit in your stomach?
    Like… “why are they giving me this right now?”
    “Why did that brand randomly DM me offering $$$ with no relationship, no convo, no context?”
    “Why did that friend suddenly turn into a sugar angel when I never asked for anything?”

    Yeah.
    That’s not intuition for no reason. That’s your spirit clocking future bait.

    Here’s the tea no one wants to admit:
    Some people give to gain control.
    They keep receipts.
    They’ll hand you the house, the title, the platform… but the moment you stop making porridge the exact way they like it?
    They’ll act like it was never yours.

    So here’s your soft warning from a bear who learned the hard way:
    Don’t ignore the motive behind the money.
    Don’t let free things cost you your peace.

    If you wouldn’t treat someone like that, why would you let them treat you that way?

    You are allowed to ask why.
    You are allowed to trust your gut.
    You are allowed to hold space for your feelings without making yourself feel “crazy” for noticing the shift.

    Because the truth?
    Your feeling is the first version of your knowing.
    And no amount of money, gifts, exposure, or “opportunity” is worth the price of your safety, your clarity, or your heart.

    Let them keep the house if it came with expectations you didn’t agree to.
    You’ve got better porridge to make.

    💸✨ So… What Kind of Money Are You Really Calling In?

    (because not all income is aligned, and not every dollar is destiny)

    At the end of the day, it doesn’t have to be $100,000 a month from Twitch.
    It doesn’t even have to be $200 from a thoughtful freelance project you gave your energy to.

    The real question is:
    What energy is your money coming from?

    Because here’s the truth most people avoid:
    Money flows best through alignment.
    Not burnout.
    Not pressure.
    Not “I guess I should” energy disguised as ambition.

    When you’re rooted in truth and authenticity —
    Money arrives calmly.
    Clients feel connected.
    Opportunities feel mutual, not transactional.
    You move… without moving.

    But when you’re caught in guilt, confusion, resentment, or trying to prove something?
    That’s when things start to slip.
    Even good money can feel heavy.
    You’ll question yourself. You’ll second-guess your worth.
    You’ll over-give and wonder why you’re still running on empty.

    So here’s the real reset:
    Guilt is guilt.
    Money is money.
    And you? You’re still you.

    You are not the number in your account.
    You are not the receipt of someone else’s idea of success.

    Choose who you are — morally, spiritually, and energetically.
    Not what you think you could do with the money…
    But what kind of life you want to live when you don’t have to chase it.

    🐾 Soft Survival for When the Coins Come with Strings

    aka how to spot the trap, protect your spirit, and keep your bag magical

    🌙✨ Is This a Gift or a Grip?

    a cozy little table for those navigating the blurry lines between generosity and manipulation

    🍯 Situation🧃Suspicious Vibes🐻 Bear Energy Response
    A family member or friend gives you money without a convo“You’ll see… this will help both of us.”“Before I say thank you, can I ask what this is for?”
    You’re being “rewarded” for being good/quiet/accommodating“You’ve been really well-behaved lately.”“What’s the expectation moving forward? I’d love clarity.”
    They give you a material gift at an oddly emotional moment“I just thought you’d need this right now.”“I appreciate the gesture — but is there anything you want to say directly?”
    You feel nervous taking their moneyYou say thanks, but your gut says: “something’s off”Ask yourself: “Would I do this to someone I love? If not, why let it be done to me?”
    They remind you of your “debt” after helping“Don’t forget what I’ve done for you.”soft smile, firm voice: “That sounds more like a trade than a gift.”

    🧼✨ Clean Exits for When People Prey on Your Peace

    (real lines to hold your power, not just survive the game)

    🧊 1. The “Clarify the Contract” Move

    Say:

    “Just so we’re on the same page — is this a gift, or are there expectations?”

    Why:
    Cuts the confusion. Forces transparency. If someone can’t answer this, it’s already a red flag.

    🧊 2. The “Pause the Pressure” Move

    Say:

    “I need space to think this through — I won’t decide right now.”

    Why:
    This helps you reset when you feel blindsided. Pressure = manipulation’s best friend.

    🧊 3. The “Name the Power Dynamic” Move

    Say:

    “I notice I feel a little indebted after this. That doesn’t sit right with me.”

    Why:
    Brings emotional currency into the open. If they flinch, it’s because they were hoping you wouldn’t notice.

    🧊 4. The “I Know My Worth” Move

    Say:

    “I appreciate the offer, but I won’t trade my peace for a favor.”

    Why:
    This reclaims your internal value before someone tries to lower your price.

    🧊 5. The “Reverse the Mirror” Move

    Say:

    “Would you still do this if I said no to everything after?”

    Why:
    It challenges whether their giving is actually conditional. If the energy shifts? You have your answer.

    🧊 6. The “Exit Gracefully, Stay Free” Move

    Say:

    “I’d rather pass than accept something that feels unclear or heavy.”

    Why:
    You don’t owe anyone participation in their confusion, projection, or guilt cycle.

    🌱✨ Your Journey, Your Power — We’re Here For It

    These moves aren’t just lines to say — they’re tools to help you protect your peace, grow your confidence, and step fully into your worth.

    At ZEALUNITY, we believe in building a community where authenticity rules and boundaries are celebrated. If you’re ready to rise, create, and connect with others who get it, come join us.

    Follow us @zealunity — because your story deserves a space to shine.

  • For Who’s Coming Next –

    For Who’s Coming Next –

    New city. New chapter. New ideas I didn’t even know I was allowed to have.

    This Is What Becoming Her Looks Like

    It’s wild how life can feel like it’s just starting… while you’re also sleep-deprived, healing old wounds, and trying to drink your coffee before it goes cold (again).

    Lately, I’ve been in this weird space — quietly redesigning what present means to me.

    Not the filtered version. Not the hustle-burnout-repeat cycle.
    But the version with slow mornings, messy joy, my little family, and the fight in me that still believes in change.
    And creativity — the kind that doesn’t perform, but speaks.

    There have been setbacks.
    There have been costs.
    And there have been days I’ve felt completely invisible — like I was giving everything away with nothing left for me.

    But I’ve also never felt more me.

    So, yeah — this post is for the ones who are watching from the sidelines.
    The ones wondering what I’ve been up to.
    It’s for my babies — one earthside, one on the way.
    And honestly?
    It’s for me.
    To look back and remember how much it took to even feel again.

    This isn’t a typical pregnancy announcement.
    This is just a moment. A messy, beautiful, real one.
    And maybe the start of something even bigger — a song, a shift, a whole new story.

    To My Future Baby:

    You don’t know me yet, but you’ve already changed me.

    In the very sudden craving for stillness. In the tears I couldn’t explain. In the ‘no’s’ I thought broke me — just to make room for the best ‘yes’ I didn’t see coming.

    You are arriving in a version of me that is learning softness again — not because I was weak, but because I had to fight for it.

    You’re being born into love.
    Not the perfect kind, but the real kind.
    The kind that shows up tired, with cereal on the floor and music playing in the background.

    You’re being born into art. Into rhythm. Into story.
    And you’re already part of mine.

    To The Girl I Was:

    I’m proud of you. Even on the days you didn’t brush your hair or thought everything was falling apart.
    Especially then.

    You loved hard. You learned the hard way. You gave too much.
    But you never stopped creating something out of nothing.

    You walked through fire and called it a normal day.
    You didn’t get a trophy for surviving, but you should have.

    Everything you thought you lost — your voice, your spark, your magic — it’s still here. I found it.
    And I’m using it.

    To This Moment:

    Thank you for the silence that turned into music.
    Thank you for the doubt that turned into art.
    Thank you for the unexpected timing — the kind that makes no sense but still feels sacred.

    I’m not announcing a perfect life.
    I’m just showing up in this one — present, imperfect, full of heart.

    Something new is on the way.
    And I think it’s going to be loud.
    And soft.
    And everything in between.

  • Kelowna:Tired of Flaky Friends—Read This Before Summer Slips Away

    Kelowna:Tired of Flaky Friends—Read This Before Summer Slips Away

    Come with us to one of our new favourite hangouts —

    where the food is fresh, the laughs come easy, and the setting makes you want to stay a little longer. Whether you’re showing up solo or meeting someone new, there’s still time to make this summer one to remember.

    Let’s be real for a second.

    You know how it goes. The “let’s hang soon” texts that never turn into plans. The group chats that somehow make you feel more alone. The vibe that’s just off.

    Living in Kelowna, where sunsets hit different and everyone kinda knows everyone, it’s easy to be around people but still feel like you’re missing your people.

    This summer isn’t about adding more contacts. It’s about finding the ones who actually get you. The people who check in for no reason, hype you up for the little things, and turn a pizza night into a memory you’ll want to keep.

    If you’re done with the fake invites and want to start making real connections, this guide is for you.

    📸 Credits

    Featuring models: Jenayah, Hammad, and Savjeet – (welcome to the team 🤍)
    Captured by: Georgia – @g.fields_photos (ZEAL Social Media Team)
    Edited & curated in-house with love
    Creative direction & brand vision by our team
    Shot on location at Dunnenzies, Mission – Kelowna 🍕

    Not Everyone Gets a Slice: How to Spot Real Friends This Summer

    Summer has a way of showing you who’s really there and who just likes the idea of being close.

    This season is about choosing people who feel like peace. Who check in without a reason. Who meet you where you’re at without making you question if you’re too much.

    You don’t need to chase. You don’t need to prove. You just need to notice.

    Whether you’re starting fresh or just noticing shifts in your circle, these reminders are here to help you stay soft, clear, and grounded. Because not everyone gets a slice—and that’s completely okay.

    1. If they keep cancelling plans, it’s okay to stop waiting.
    You deserve consistency. If someone repeatedly lets you down, believe their patterns and stop putting your joy on hold.
    🫶 But maybe they’re overwhelmed and don’t know how to say it.
    Some people cancel not because they don’t care, but because they’re anxious, burnt out, or in a hard season. You can hold boundaries and hold space.

    2. If it only feels good online, it’s not as deep as you think.
    If someone hypes you in comments but never checks in when it counts, it might be more about image than intimacy.
    🫶 But maybe that’s the only way they know how to connect right now.
    Some people use social media to show love because it feels safer than real vulnerability. You get to decide if that’s enough for you.

    3. Just because you’ve known them forever doesn’t mean they still fit.
    Time doesn’t equal trust. Some friendships run their course, and that’s not failure—it’s growth.
    🫶 But maybe they’re growing too, just quietly.
    Not everyone grows out loud. They might be shifting too, unsure how to bridge the new version of themselves with the old version of your friendship.

    4. If they talk badly about everyone else, they probably talk about you too.
    It might feel like you’re the exception, but gossip is usually a pattern—not a one-time thing.
    🫶 But maybe they just need better ways to process what they’re feeling.
    Some people vent because they don’t have safe spaces to work through things. It doesn’t excuse it—but it helps to ask if their tone changes when you bring softness into the room.

    5. If the energy feels off, it is.
    You don’t need proof. You don’t need a reason. You’re allowed to pull back from anything that makes you feel small or unsure.
    🫶 But maybe they’re just trying to protect themselves too.
    Sometimes we mistake distance for disinterest when really, someone is guarding their own heart. Not everyone knows how to be open and present, even when they want to.

    Our Secret Hangout Spot: DunnenZies Is More Than Just Pizza

    Hammad, Jenayah, and new member Savjeet recently visited Dunnenzies and it quickly became our new favourite hangout.

    The vibe is totally relaxed. The patio is tucked under big Okanagan trees giving all the fresh air feels but without the annoying crowds or noise. It’s the kind of place where you can actually have real convos, play some games and just be without distractions.

    Posters for local shows and events decorate the walls adding a cool artsy touch. The prices won’t make your wallet cry and the staff are so kind and welcoming it felt like we had known them forever. Plus the dog friendly patio is a major win if you’ve got a furry sidekick.

    They hooked us up with some next level mocktails and a mix of fresh vegetarian dishes plus a few classic favourites. The food was crispy and fresh holding up perfectly for our food pics and every last bite after.

    If you want that real Okanagan vibe without the crowds or chaos, Dunnenzies is the secret spot you didn’t know you needed.

    Hammad’s Review — One of Our Members Shares His Take

    After our visit to Dunnenzies, we asked Hammad to share his honest thoughts on the experience. Here’s what he had to say:

    **“We had a really pleasant time at Dunnenzies.
    The food was delicious. We ordered vegetarian pizza, loaded fries, nachos, and tacos.
    The quality of every item was top notch. The pizza was great. I really liked the loaded fries, and the fish tacos were well done.

    The only suggestion I’d have is to consider adding halal options if the business model allows. Otherwise, excellent food.”**

    We love hearing honest takes from our members and including every voice at the table. This was a summer memory worth sharing — and the food made it even better.

    Sick of Stress and Bad Vibes? Try These Kelowna Date Ideas ASAP

    1. Chill on the Dunnenzies Patio in the Mission

    Head to Dunnenzies’ Mission location and grab some of their seriously good pizza. They’ve also got a great happy hour menu that makes hanging out even sweeter. Take your food outside to their beautiful grassy patio — it’s the perfect spot to relax, soak up some sun, and enjoy good vibes with your date or friends. Pizza + patio + good deals = summer goals.

    Read more for our full experience!

    2. Music & Movement at Waterfront Park

    Bring a portable speaker and curate a playlist you and your date (or friends) love. Dance, walk along the lake, or just sit and listen while watching boats glide by. Bonus: it’s free, beautiful, and easy to escape into nature without leaving the city.

    3. Nature Walk & Picnic at Knox Mountain

    Pack a simple picnic or bring some leftover pizza from your favourite spot. Hike or stroll around Knox Mountain trails, find a quiet lookout, and enjoy the fresh air with low-key conversations and killer views.

    4. Vinyl or Chill Session at Home

    If you’re into music but don’t want to go out, host a vinyl listening session or playlist swap at home. Light some candles and make it a chill night to connect without any pressure.

    5. Art Crawl & Coffee Break Downtown

    Explore the vibrant street art and galleries downtown Kelowna. Walk or bike from mural to mural, snapping pics and sharing laughs. Stop by a local coffee shop like Bean Scene for a quick caffeine boost and a chill chat.

    6. Sunset Chill & Acoustic Vibes at Boyce-Gyro Park

    Bring a blanket, some acoustic tunes, and snacks to Boyce-Gyro Beach for a laid-back evening by the water. Watch the sunset, share stories, and enjoy the fresh lake breeze with good company—no fire needed.

    Moments Like This

    There’s something special about summer nights that feel easy. Sitting under the trees, laughing over food, swapping stories, and meeting new people who just get it. These are the kinds of moments that stick with us — the ones that make us feel seen, connected, and inspired.

    In a world that might feel scary when it comes to new opinions, new friends, and new ideas, it is time to listen to ourselves and what feels right. Habits grow. And the longer you hold on to old feelings or friendships that no longer match where you are going, sometimes that becomes the only place you will go.

    If you want to grow, if you want to feel different tomorrow not just in your thoughts but in your chest, you need change. If you do not have people to call today, take yourself out on one of these beautiful Okanagan days. Think about how amazing you are. Think about how loved you deserve to feel. Look up at the sky. Feel the warmth and freedom on your skin as you choose how to feel. You get to decide what a positive day looks like for you.

    You do not need people or things or some perfect plan to enjoy summer. You need moments that feel real. Do things you will actually remember. Not the things you hope people see you at. Because truth is, no one is looking. And that is where the freedom begins.

    At ZEALUNITY, we are building a space that feels like more. A place to create, to connect, and to be around people who want to grow and live fully. Whether you are starting fresh or already on your path, we are always happy to meet you.

    Come hang with us. There is always room for you here.

  • Why Your Cleanser Is Secretly Ruining Your Skin—And How to Fix It Fast

    Why Your Cleanser Is Secretly Ruining Your Skin—And How to Fix It Fast

    Don’t let stale skincare steal your glow or your worth. It’s time to take back control with a cleanser as fresh and powerful as you are.

    We’ve joined forces, our modelling community and media team, to bring you a fresh rebrand rooted in realness and purpose. This is more than skincare; it’s a movement honouring the beauty of self-worth and respect.

    The 3 Hidden Skincare Habits That Are Sabotaging Your Glow

    You’ve got your routine down, your bathroom shelf is stocked, and you’re doing what you’re told is good for your skin. So why does it still feel dull, tight, or just not quite right?

    Chances are, a few hidden habits are getting in the way. Things like over washing with harsh cleansers, using products that have lost their punch sitting on a shelf, or layering too much without knowing what actually works together.

    That’s where Abelin FAST™ Cleanser changes everything. Instead of sitting in a bottle losing power over time, the formula stays fresh and potent until the moment you activate it.

    All you do is pour the concentrate into your refillable Forever Bottle, add water, give it a good shake and that is it. In seconds, you have a high performance cleanser made fresh by you.

    It is simple. It is powerful. And it works for all skin types without stripping or stressing your skin.

    Because skincare should support your skin not make it work overtime.

    Glow better, not harder.

    Fresh Vibes Only A Fun and Simple Abelin Inspired Routine

    Start your day with some skin love and good energy Here’s a quick routine that’s fresh fun and works for everyone!

    • Shake it up Pour your Abelin FAST concentrate into the Forever Bottle add water and shake it like you mean it Fresh cleanser ready to go zero waste total glow power
    • Wash away the day Use your fresh mix to gently clean off dirt sweat and whatever else the day threw at you No tight or stripped feeling just clean and happy skin
    • Soft touch dry Pat your face dry with a soft towel No rubbing needed Your skin will thank you
    • Refresh and balance Spritz on your fave gentle toner if you want to add a little extra love
    • Lock it in Finish with a light moisturizer and sunscreen Your skin’s best friends for staying healthy and glowing

    Bonus points for smiling at yourself because confidence is the best glow of all….Keep it fresh keep it fun and let your skin shine bright.

    More Than Skin Deep: Why Your Routine Affects Your Mood and Your Glow

    Life moves fast. Everything changes from trends to talks to politics and it can feel like taking care of yourself is way down the list. Totally get it. When things feel off outside it is hard to feel your best or even think you deserve it.

    But here is the deal. Taking a moment to check in on how you feel about your habits and what really works for you is a major power move. Saying out loud that something feels off is not failing. It is winning the first round.

    To level up you have to cut what weighs you down switch things up or risk staying stuck hating what you think you want. This is your moment to break free and unlock your power.

    So show yourself some love. Fill your world with good vibes. Try new things and keep your mind open. Because when you do things change and that glow up will hit your skin your life and everything good coming your way.

    Here are 10 easy affirmations to boost your confidence and energy while you get ready in the morning:

    • Today I choose to be kind to myself.
    • I deserve to feel good in my own skin.
    • Every day I get a little stronger and braver.
    • Happiness is something I welcome into my life.
    • I am proud of the progress I make.
    • I am enough just the way I am right now.
    • Positive energy flows through me today.
    • Challenges don’t stop me—they help me grow.
    • I appreciate my body and all it does for me.
    • I’m ready to take on today with an open mind.

    How ZEALUNITY Models Get Ready for the Camera

    Content shoot loading… and it all starts with getting your mind, skin, and bag right.

    1. Clean Skin, Clear Mind
    After receiving their Abelin cleanser, our models love using it the night before or morning of their shoot. The fresh-mix formula makes it feel like a mini ritual — one quick step to reset and prep your skin so it’s clean, calm, and ready to glow.

    2. Pack Your Model Bag
    Every model has their version, but here are the non-negotiables most ZEALUNITY girls and guys toss in:

    • Nude and black undergarments
    • A plain tank or tee
    • A zip-up hoodie or robe for in-between looks
    • Makeup wipes
    • Hair ties and a brush
    • Light moisturizer and lip balm
    • Water bottle and a snack (granola bar or fruit is a fav)
    • Confidence (and maybe a phone charger)

    3. Hype Playlist On Repeat
    Getting into the mood is everything. Expect to hear a mix of RAYE, Tyler The Creator, Tate McRae, Ice Spice, or some vibey R&B or house beats to calm the nerves and pump the energy. Think pre-game meets main character moment.

    4. Set Intentions, Not Expectations
    Whether it’s your first shoot or your fiftieth, our models remind themselves it’s about growing, experimenting, and having fun. Breathe, stretch, take a mirror selfie. Say your affirmations. This is your space to evolve.

    5. Don’t Forget the Vibe Check
    Good attitude = good shoot. Help others zip up their outfits, gas each other up, and remember you’re part of something bigger. This isn’t just a shoot — it’s a community, and we’re in it together.

    Real Talk with the Founders of Abelin Skin Care 🇨🇦✨

    The truth behind the bottles — in their own words.

    We sat down with the duo behind Abelin Skin Care to get the real story — the wins, the worries, and the “we can actually do this” moments that brought this innovative brand to life. From family inspiration to skincare habits and future dreams, here’s what they had to say:

    1. What was the “aha” moment that made you two decide to actually launch this product?

    Our breakthrough moment came during a casual conversation about my great-grandmother’s vintage jar — the same one we still use today to store our dishwasher pods! Realizing this beautiful container survived two world wars and is still going strong made us stop and think: every bottle we casually toss might outlast us by generations, potentially causing harm for decades to come.

    That’s when Abelin was born — as our way to reclaim those bottles from becoming waste, by giving them multiple lives, just like that jar. ✨

    We’ll be honest — the journey hasn’t been easy! Between juggling day jobs and battling perfectionism (hello, imposter syndrome!), we’ve launched, relaunched, and refined our vision more than once. But that’s exactly why we’re so passionate now — we’re finally ready to share this labour of love with the world, imperfections and all.

    2. What inspired the name Abelin?

    Abelin is our love letter to the two incredible women who raised us.

    Abe comes from Abeke — Yinka’s mom’s name (and now our daughter’s first name, too!).
    Lin honours Linda, Kayla’s mom.

    These powerhouse women always pushed us to reach higher, to believe in ourselves, and to never settle. Naming our brand after them felt like the most natural way to honour their legacy while building something rooted in their values: excellence, care, and positive impact.

    3. How would you describe your brand’s energy in three words?

    Pure Aquarius energy. ✨
    • Curious — always questioning the status quo
    • Reformer — challenging industry norms
    • Innovative — creating fresh solutions to old problems

    4. What makes your product different from everything else on the shelf right now?

    Abelin empowers people to be part of the solution — without sacrificing results. That’s revolutionary.

    We care deeply about every ingredient and how it benefits your skin. But we’re just as passionate about what happens after your bottle is empty. Abelin lets you choose both: effective skincare and a lower-impact lifestyle. No compromises — just beautiful skin and a better future, packaged in a system designed to eliminate waste.

    5. Be honest — who’s more skincare-obsessed between the two of you?

    That would definitely be me (Kayla)! I have a full nighttime routine and love every minute of it. Yinka? Zero routine — but he’s obsessed with formulation and the science behind skincare.

    Funny enough, this all started when I was eyeing a $100 serum and Yinka said, “We could totally make that ourselves.” One formulation course later, and seven years down the road, we’re still making skincare magic. Total plot twist. ✨

    6. What do your kids think about the business? Have they gotten involved in any fun ways?

    Seeing how proud our kids are is one of our biggest motivations. Our son’s become a little environmental warrior — talking to his friends about waste reduction and saying, “My parents make the best skincare.”

    And our four-year-old daughter? She’s obsessed with skincare. Honestly, she has the soul of a twenty-year-old beauty lover. We’re already dreaming of creating signature products for them one day. How amazing would that be? 💕

    7. What’s a random, personal habit that inspired how you made or use this product?

    Honestly? Pure laziness. 😅

    Making skincare from scratch is time-consuming, so we started pre-making concentrated bases and just adding water for refills. One day we thought — why not offer that same ease to others?

    And that’s how our skincare concentrates were born. Sometimes the best ideas come from finding smarter—not harder—ways to do things.

    8. If Abelin had a vibe song or playlist, what’s on it?

    Yinka’s picks capture us perfectly:
    “Bloody Samaritan” and “Happiness” — bold, uplifting, and unstoppable.

    We also love “High Hopes” by Panic! At The Disco — we’re always shooting for the stars. Our soundtrack is all about joy, empowerment, and that feeling you get when you know you’re making a difference in the world. ✨

    9. What do you want people to feel when they try your product for the first time?

    Pride and joy.

    That incredible feeling of knowing that one small switch — choosing Abelin — makes a real impact for the planet. And on top of that? Glowing skin. We want you to love how you look and love what you’re a part of.

    It’s the perfect combo: doing good while looking incredible. What’s not to love?

    10. What’s one dream for the future of Abelin — even if it feels big?

    Our ultimate vision? No more single-use waste in skincare.

    Think about this: most plastic and glass containers are built to last over four generations… yet we throw them out after a few months. That means your great-grandkids could literally hold the bottle you’re using today.

    With Abelin, that’s possible. We’re not just saving bottles — we’re creating legacy. One refill at a time. ✨

    Ready to try the glow-up cleanser everyone’s talking about Experience fresh skin and clean ingredients with Abelin FAST skincare Visit Abelincare.com to learn more and start your fresh routine today

    CREDITS – Brought to life by the ZEAL community

    Featured Models
    Jenayah, Sydney May, Deep, Hammad, Olivia Ball, Kirat, Shivana

    Creative Direction
    Shivana – Assistant Creative Director and Second Shooter
    Photographer from ZEAL Media Team
    Okanagan Portraits – Lead Photographer

    Edited in-house and curated by ZEAL
    Brand Vision by ZEAL

    In Collaboration With
    Brand – Abelin

    A Big Thank You
    We’re so grateful to be creating with such a passionate and inspiring community. Every shoot, every story, every moment is a reminder of why we do this. Thank you to everyone involved for showing up, sharing your energy, and making this vision real. We’re just getting started — and we can’t wait for what’s next.

    With love,
    ZEAL 🤍

  • They Hurt Me—Then Checked In

    They Hurt Me—Then Checked In

    For those who are looking, I love you.

    The Truth About Why I Stayed Silent — What I’m Finally Ready to Share

    I don’t even know how to write what I want to write. It’s scary to think that one person can feel one way and someone else can feel completely different. Sometimes it holds me back from sharing because the fear of being misunderstood hurts more than my ability to hide my pain. It’s hard.

    All I’ve ever wanted was to feel seen. But as I’ve grown older, I realize that my need to be heard was so loud because I was asking for love—the kind I didn’t have for myself and didn’t grow up with. It’s tough being an adult, a mom, a wife, and still feeling like I’m nothing but human, learning how to love.

    I carry so many responsibilities, and I’m still carrying bags I didn’t pack. I’m trying to heal myself, to break generational trauma, and to figure out what the right thing is. One of the biggest things I’ve realized is that I used to take people’s love and value as security. If I just loved you the way you wanted, maybe I could stay comfortable forever. Maybe I could just be loved, safe, and content. No more asking. No more doubting.

    But this is the only thing I know how to do. To keep quiet. To please. To mask. No one wanted to listen in my personal life except my fiancé, but he’s not the one I’m trying to heal from. I’ve shared my truth with people who asked for it, and suddenly it was too much. I was too much.

    Why couldn’t I just do what I was told? Would I get your love then? No. Would you try to understand me? Would you make sure I had a soft place to land when I cried? No.

    If this is what I’ve been subjected to, even from people who were supposed to care, then will I ever really be heard?

    This is the form I’ve decided to write on because I can’t always speak. For those who know me, and those who don’t, I have a stuttering problem. It started when I was young and got worse over time. I always blamed myself because it’s happening to me. But things also happened to me. Things I’ve never talked about. And I guess I just stopped talking because of the insecurity.

    But it’s hard to keep it all in when I feel myself being surrounded by lies. It feels like I’m being suppressed to forget instead of being asked what happened to me. Not by just anyone’s opinion but by the very people I’ve been longing would help me.

    Whenever I ask spirit what to do, the answer is always the same. Create. And that’s what I’ve been doing these past five years. I’ve been pouring my energy into things that matter, but it’s also made this feeling inside me get quieter. My happiness has slowly dulled because I can feel the people from my past—the friends and family—talking differently about me. Just because I don’t confront it doesn’t mean I don’t care.

    I care too much. It’s hurting me. But I don’t want to keep telling you how it feels because no one changes, and that’s okay. I don’t expect you to.

    I’m learning. This is part of it. I need to tell my story. Maybe I’ll share it in small pieces because it’s too much to unpack all at once. But this is me trying.

    The Cost of Being Real

    You might see me some days shining brighter than you’ve ever seen before, and other days not quite so bright—but that doesn’t mean I’m not okay. I feel people’s judgments and stares, even in places I’ve never been before. I show up as myself. When things are going well, you might see the best version of me. When they’re not, I might look or feel like the worst version—at least to myself. I’m simply working through my own process, putting my energy into healing so I can be even brighter the next day.

    I know people often ask out of genuine concern. Are you tired? How are things going today? What’s the problem? I get it. But if I answer you, will you twist my truth into a version that fits your own story about me?

    When people ask why I started Zealunity, I can feel their confusion, and it bothers me. What’s so hard to understand? I went through something negative, and I wanted to create what a positive space could look like—something I needed in that timeline of my life. It feels like people want me to say I had some weird dream and plotted it out.

    Even when I share my small talk, my surface-level story, no one asks any deeper questions. Maybe it’s because they don’t want to pry, but the expressions on their faces don’t show empathy. It’s subtle, but it’s there. Still confusion.

    What are you looking for? Can I answer anything more? Or will that make you face who you think I am—or maybe who you actually are based on the questions you ask? I don’t mind answering your questions. It’s okay to be honest with me. But when my answer doesn’t match what you already believe, are you willing to let that go?

    It’s been hard having people around who don’t fully trust me, but honestly, I can’t blame them. You don’t really know me. That’s why, for those who are looking or wanting to connect, I want to be a space you can come to.

    To be real and straightforward, I feel the simplest place to start is at the very beginning. I’m not sure how long this will take or what will come from it, but I’m going to try to start there. This is for myself, my kids, my friends, and maybe for anyone who has questions they don’t feel comfortable asking me directly. I hope this can be a place where you can understand how I think and see my perspective on my story. Little bits…

    The Beginning of Me: Trauma, Trucks, and Tough Love

    I was born in Winnipeg, Manitoba, on August 10th, 2001, around 7:30 in the morning. My mom has told me the birth was pretty traumatic. From what I understand, I wasn’t coming out easily. She wanted a natural birth but was open to help. I guess I got stuck—TMI, I know. Then this guy came into the room without warning and told my mom he was going to use some kind of tool to pull me out. I don’t know all the details, but my grandma on my mom’s side and my dad said everyone was pretty upset about how it went down. I never got much more info than that.

    I’ve tried to keep this simple because I don’t really know if all the facts I have are true or if some of it is just feelings and memories mixing together. I’ve got a lot of side stories and questions swirling around, but I’m trying not to internalize everything too much.

    Mothers are incredibly strong. I don’t mean to minimize that rough experience, but it just shows how life happens sometimes, you know? Anyways.

    I grew up surrounded by motorbikes, snowmobiles, 4x4s, tractors—you name it. My grandparents on my dad’s side still own a place with like 50 acres, plus another property with a house, barn, and all kinds of “toys.” The other land is for tree planting. It was a special place to grow up—safe but loud, full of real, messy, beautiful farm life. There’s something about that kind of childhood that sticks with you.

    After my parents’ divorce and separation, I’d spend lots of time at my grandparents’ place. It became the place I would stay and a constant refuge throughout my childhood, especially during the hard times. It was also the meeting place for my mom and dad to talk before the “exchange”, and every time they met there, it felt like a ritual or some kind of cult space—like they were stuck in a loop I didn’t belong in.

    I don’t remember much about my mom and dad’s house because we moved when I was three. We had to leave after my mom found out my dad was struggling with an addiction. She didn’t know before, she always told me it was new information for her too.

    Later on, my dad would bring up strange things without me asking—making these offhand, half jokes about “pain relief” he’d made for my mom. Even as a kid, that felt wrong. I never wanted to ask for more because it didn’t feel safe. As I got older, I realised he struggled to control his emotions, and somehow I became the person who either had to validate his manic moods or bounce back better energy. So that’s what I did. No questions asked, just smiles.

    Why Growing Up Felt Like Gaslighting Myself for Years

    As I grew up, I think I started to get used to this strange mix of energy around me. It became easy to see others’ actions that I didn’t like as something unrelated to what was really happening inside me. Let’s just say that. I wanted to see love, respect, care, and safety. Honestly, I gaslit myself pretty hard from about age eight to sixteen. But that’s also where my healing began and where I’m learning to be kinder to myself. I was a kid—I didn’t know any better.

    I feel like as I go further on this journey, because this feels good, I’ll have more details to share and be able to talk about it more clearly. Sometimes the things I’m working through are what I use to create something beautiful. It’s funny how focusing on the opposite of the negative helps me stop dwelling on it. So yeah, I’ll try to think about it more, but right now it’s hard.

    Naturally, what comes to mind is when things really shifted. It all changed when my mom married my stepdad. My dad’s behaviour became harder and harder to understand. My mom started putting me in the middle, making me choose between them. I remember on Father’s Day, if I bought a “bigger” gift for my dad, my mom would pull me aside and tell me how much my stepdad would really appreciate it. That confused me.

    At the same time, I knew my stepdad was using my mom to fulfill his own needs for gratitude, and that hurt. He would often look at other women and smile bigger at strangers he’d never met than he ever did at me or our family. It always felt like the life he wanted was just a couple steps away—but he was stuck with us. The life he had was a bit better than where he came from, but still far from what he dreamed of.

    It wasn’t just the looks—it was physical and emotional too.

    The Wild Nights That Changed Everything — Why I Had to Run to Find Myself

    Why would I care? Because I had to do everything my heart was telling me — even when it felt like chaos. Imagine being 15, sneaking out in the middle of a farming field, no friends, no money, just figuring it out alone.. crying. Those wild nights led to some deep self-reflection. I kept asking myself, Taylor, you’re hurting. You say you don’t care, but why? Why does this feel so good? Don’t you want freedom? Don’t you want to be safe?

    That’s what pushed me to move out halfway through grade 12. No money. No plan. And honestly? No feelings at all. Just pure, stubborn trust in myself and a fierce need to stand up for who I was becoming. I could feel my mom waiting for me to fall apart—like she was just waiting for me to crumble under all this pressure. And that hurt, because… what the hell, Mom? Your life choices put me in this position in the first place. Every time I ran to you about something—emotional or physical—you’d tell me he was working on himself or that I probably did something to deserve it. Even when you didn’t say it outright, the way you’d look at me or ask, “What did you do?” made it clear you thought I was the problem. Like, Mom, this man, regardless of who he is to us, just did something that made me feel so uncomfortable, and I told him to stop, but nothing changed. Instead of seeing the problem, you turned it on me. I guess I learned that if anyone had a problem, it was because I was telling the truth—but they weren’t ready to hear it. I don’t get saved. So nah, get outta my face. I was doing me, and you do you.

    Once again, I was the one creating distance—“She’s going through something,” they said. The only thing I was going through were the booby traps set up by our family. Honestly, can you tell there’s a lot to unpack here? Haha, yeah, that’s an understatement.

    But this was also when I found my first real connection with God. It’s not about telling anyone else what to believe—this is just my experience with what I believe. After crashing on my manager’s couch for a while (going sour), I scoured the internet and found a basement suite I could actually afford without being 18. I didn’t know at the time that the owner was the mom of a girl I barely knew from high school someone who, to this day, I’m pretty sure still doesn’t like me. Fair enough, though—we never really hung out, never followed each other, barely even spoke.

    Back in high school, we were in the same dance class, and she and her friends used to make fun of me—laughing at me while I checked myself out in the mirror and played with my hair. The only reason I even knew about it was because a girl who was part of that group got paired with me for a dance project when I didn’t have a partner and later told me about it. Maybe she felt bad, but after that, we stayed dance partners every single class.

    Anyway, there I was—stuck living in the only place I could afford—the basement, sharing a suite with one of the girls who openly made fun of me to her friends. It was brutal. I eventually moved out when I scraped together enough to get somewhere else, but those months were tough. I think my mom came to see me once, but only to help bring my stuff after I got the keys.

    When Everything Fell Apart And What I Found Instead

    That period was one of the hardest times in my life, but it’s also when I discovered how much I loved photography and being creative—it was my escape from everything falling apart. That passion grew and shaped me into who I am today, and honestly, it’s why I’m sharing this story now.

    These small, messy, painful details make up everything I am. And I want people to know—no matter what I’ll always be open, real, and willing to talk about anything. Because that’s the only way to keep moving forward.

    Time alone became more than just a way to escape, it became my foundation. In those quiet, lonely moments, I started peeling back the layers and discovering who I really was, beyond the chaos and pain. Photography and creativity didn’t just fill the silence — they became my voice, my way to make sense of a world that often felt confusing and cruel. It was the first time I felt like I had something real that belonged to me, something that no one could take away.

    But don’t get it twisted…this journey isn’t wrapped up in a neat little bow. It’s messy, raw, and far from over. There are scars I haven’t shown, stories I haven’t told, and battles I’m still fighting in the shadows. If you think this is where it ends, think again. This is just the opening chapter.

    So, if you’re ready for the real, unfiltered truth — the kind that challenges everything you think you know — stick around. Because the rest of the story? It’s darker, deeper, and way more complicated than you can imagine. And I’m only just getting started.

  • Inside THEsalon on St. Paul: More Than Just Hair—An Editorial Journey

    Inside THEsalon on St. Paul: More Than Just Hair—An Editorial Journey

    Credits

    Brand: The Salon on St. Paul
    Models: ZEALUNITY Creatives – Kirat + Shivanna
    Videography: Mason Koopman, ZEAL Social
    Editing: In-house by ZEAL Social
    Photography: Georgia, Media Member at ZEAL Social

    Growth, Small-Town Spirit, and the Creative Journey

    From the moment we connected with Salon Coordinator Jordan, the energy was anything but boring—think a mix of warmth, creativity, and authenticity that set the tone for the entire experience. It was a space where happiness, calm energy, and a balance of feminine and masculine vibes just felt right. It’s rare to find a brand that genuinely welcomes everyone—not just when the camera’s rolling, but behind the scenes too. That’s exactly the energy we found at this salon, and we can’t wait to share it with you.

    The Salon Experience You’ll Rave About.. Real Canadian Vibes

    Let’s be real. The last thing you need is a hair salon that feels like a small-town soap opera. That’s where THEsalon on St. Paul comes in. From the second you walk in, you’re greeted with chill energy, a warm smile, and maybe even a coffee. No awkward convos, no pressure to overshare — just you, your hair goals, and a team that truly gets it.

    Women’s cuts, men’s trims, kids’ styles — whatever you’re after, they’ve got you. Our models had the best time here. They got fresh trims and effortless styles that totally captured their vibe for our branding shoot — all without feeling like they had to play dress-up.

    If you’re all about clean girl or guy energy, natural hair moments, and a place where you can just be, this is your spot. THEsalon on St. Paul is the real deal. Book now and step into your best hair day ever.

    Our Step-by-Step Vision for Impactful Content

    Process and Creative Vision

    When we first looked at this brand, we noticed a consistent aesthetic throughout their feed—darker backgrounds that naturally create depth and contrast, giving each post a moody yet sophisticated feel. We saw that the brand leans into a distinctly feminine look but pairs it with masculine colour tones like dark greys, charcoals, and muted hues. This combination stands out beautifully, adding both strength and softness to the overall vibe.

    We also observed how they make their subjects pop—the main focus is always bright, well-lit, and crisp, yet never overly edited or artificial. It feels polished but not overdone, maintaining a natural elegance that’s key to their brand identity.

    Another detail that stood out was their focus on hair—how they showcase hairstyles in an aesthetic, almost editorial way. We wanted to honour that by weaving in similar aesthetic shots and b-roll footage that complement the brand’s existing content. Our goal was to match the vibe while adding a touch of our own creative vision, ensuring the content feels like a seamless extension of what they already do best.

    Before: Their Instagram Feed—Moody, Feminine, and Strong

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    After: Bringing It to Life—Our Models, Strategy, and Social Media Storytelling

    Explaining the Mood and Vibe of the Content

    This content captures the authentic, lived-in feel of a modern salon experience, blending a warm, community-driven atmosphere with polished, editorial visuals. Each shot balances natural lighting with slightly moody, muted backgrounds, allowing the subjects—clients, stylists, and products—to stand out in a real, unfiltered way.

    The overall aesthetic leans into dark greys and earthy tones, giving the feed a masculine yet inviting backdrop that feels both modern and timeless. The styling is intentional but never forced; it celebrates real moments, like laughter, connection, and the artistry of hairdressing, without feeling too posed or overly curated.

    Bright smiles and candid interactions add a friendly, approachable tone, while the close-up shots of products, tools, and signage remind us that this is a professional, detail-oriented space. The hair textures, especially the waves and highlights, are showcased beautifully, striking that sweet spot between editorial polish and natural beauty.

    Overall, this feed feels like stepping into a salon where good hair days meet good vibes. It’s a place where real people are celebrated and every detail is captured with care and intention.

    Unleash Your Best Hair Yet

    At THEsalon on St. Paul, they specialize in personalized hair experiences that bring out your unique style. Whether you’re looking for a fresh women’s cut, a tailored men’s trim, or a children’s cut that’s both fun and stylish, their highly trained stylists work with you to find the perfect look that suits your lifestyle.

    They also offer luxurious blowouts, special occasion updos, and treatments customized to your hair’s unique needs—clarifying, smoothing, hydrating, or all of the above. Add a treatment to any service for that extra glow.

    If it’s colour you’re after, they use Schwarzkopf colour to deliver consistent, stunning results. From simple touch-ups to full-length transformations and highlights, their team brings your vision to life.

    Book today and let them create your perfect hair story.

    Why Women Dominate Socials—and How Our Strategy Empowers Them to Market Your Business

    Explanation:
    It’s no secret that women drive social media. Statistics consistently show that women are the majority of users and trendsetters across platforms like Instagram and TikTok. They shape trends, influence brand conversations, and build communities that keep people engaged.

    Our strategy taps into this dynamic by showcasing confident, empowered women who authentically represent your business. Especially in industries that celebrate femininity—like beauty, wellness, fashion, and lifestyle—there’s a natural space for women to shine.

    We create room for women to be sexy, confident, and magnetic, crafting content that aligns with the audios, visuals, and trends they love. This approach doesn’t just build engagement; it positions your business in front of audiences that trust and admire the women who represent it.

    Interested in Working Together?

    We believe in showcasing confident, authentic individuals who bring every brand to life. If you’re curious about how our creative strategy can align with your vision, let’s chat. We’d love to explore how our approach can elevate your content and create something unforgettable—together.

    Follow us – @ZealUnity











  • Salt Drop: A Content Moment with Llala Joseph

    Salt Drop: A Content Moment with Llala Joseph

    For this drop, we tapped into the world of Salt Mob—a Kelowna-based brand led by founder Llala Joseph. Rooted in minimalism, female energy, and effortless edge, Salt Mob brings a new narrative to the local scene.

    Images by Zeal SOCIAL
    Media Team Member: Okanagan Portraits
    Edited by the Zeal Team
    Models from the ZEALUNITY Community
    Content owned by ZEAL
    Special thanks to our crew for making this drop possible.

    Behind the Drop: Salt Mob x ZEALUNITY

    For our weekend shoot with Salt Mob, models Sydney, Deep, and Jenayah stepped into a vision that felt both bold and grounded. It was our first time collaborating with the brand, and it brought something more than just style.

    When we connected with founder Llala Joseph, her passion for the brand was clear. As a familiar name in the Okanagan creative scene, she understands the complexity of finding your identity in a small community. Where routine can blur originality, Salt Mob brings something fresh, confident, and deeply intentional.

    The energy on set was something we could see and feel. For our models—who are naturally softer and more reserved—there was a shift the moment the pieces came on. A new sense of pride and individuality surfaced, expressed freely through movement, posture, and presence. The brand created space for them to be exactly who they are, and supported that freedom every step of the way.

    What we witnessed felt effortless. Honest. Real. It was one of those moments where everything aligned—style, energy, and intention. Salt Mob didn’t just show up with a look. Llala brought a feeling that stayed long after the shoot wrapped.

    Built Different in the Valley

    There’s something surreal about watching someone you’ve known since way back step fully into their power.

    Llala Joseph has always had that energy—even as a teenager, you could feel the creativity bubbling under the surface. But to see where she is now? Leading with intention, creating pieces that reflect everything her soul’s been saying for years… it’s wild in the best way.

    What started as presence has become power. Watching her build something so unapologetically her—and getting the chance to help create content that reflects that? Full-circle and then some.

    Salt Mob isn’t just a brand—it’s an extension of everything she’s always been about: edge, freedom, truth, and self-expression without limits.

    Keep scrolling for the full BTS of our shoot with Llala, and of course…
    our tips on how you might just land a spot in Salt Mob’s exclusive circle 😉

    Add to cart, but make it iconic.

    So, You Wanna Rep Salt Mob? 👀Okay… let’s spill. #SaltMob

    Let’s clear it up—this isn’t about getting “in” with a brand. It’s about aligning with something that’s already moving with meaning.

    From what we’ve seen, Salt Mob isn’t here for trends or surface-level energy. It’s about owning who you are—loud, quiet, chill, bold—whatever that looks like when it’s real.

    If you’re trying to catch the wave, here’s what we picked up:

    ✔ You don’t have to fit in—just stand firm in your own energy.
    ✔ Authenticity matters more than aesthetics.
    ✔ Drama? Not the Salt Mob way.
    ✔ Joy, individuality, and a little edge go a long way.
    ✔ It’s not performative—it’s personal.

    From our time shooting with the brand, we saw how much intention goes into everything—from the designs to the way people are treated on set. If you’re someone who leads with realness, takes up space with love, and isn’t afraid to evolve publicly?

    Then Salt Mob might just see you.

    Support what you want to see more of.
    📍Locally rooted.
    🔥 Female-founded.
    🎤 A brand with something to say.
    Tap in. Shop Salt Mob now.

    Special thanks to our incredible crew, creators, and community who helped bring this shoot to life. Every detail, moment, and frame was made possible by the energy you showed up with.

    Follow us on Instagram @zealunity for more behind-the-scenes moments, upcoming drops, and features like this.
    And don’t forget to show love to @saltmob.ca — let them know if you’re ready to rep something real.

  • If You’ve Ever Had to Leave Something You Loved to Find Yourself — This One’s for You.

    If You’ve Ever Had to Leave Something You Loved to Find Yourself — This One’s for You.

    This is for anyone chasing something they love — while quietly feeling like it’s tearing them down.

    Because sometimes the thing that’s supposed to be your safe space starts feeling heavy. And it usually starts small — learning how to just be. Alone. Uncomfortable. Taking up space when shrinking would be easier.

    That was us… first time parents, newly engaged, running on no sleep, trying to keep up with content and still feel like ourselves. We had just brought our baby home to a space that held so many memories. That house meant something. But slowly, we started to notice shifts.

    It was full of love — but it also held things we weren’t aligned with anymore.

    Like the fact that family still had keys.

    At the time, it made sense. It came from a place of trust and connection. But as our life changed — especially with a newborn — the setup just didn’t feel right for us anymore. I’d be mid-feed in the living room, barely dressed, and the door would open without warning. It wasn’t anyone’s fault. It just no longer worked.

    That experience wasn’t about blame – it was about awareness.

    It showed us how much we had changed. How our needs had changed. And how honouring that doesn’t mean we’re ungrateful or disconnected… it just means we’re growing.

    Because sometimes growth asks you to reimagine what home looks like.
    And even the best chapters eventually give way to new ones.

    If I don’t speak up for me — who will?

    If I Do What’s Right for Me — Will You Still Like Me?

    You’ve probably felt it too — that quiet question in the back of your mind: If you do what’s right for you… will they still like you? You’re not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings or make yours louder. You just need the space to be honest. It’s not about being dramatic or even “nice.” It’s about being real — truthful, clear, and loving. Real connection can hold both truths at once: yours and theirs. And if you don’t speak up for what’s real in you…um?

    Let me keep it real for a sec.

    I just moved out of a small town. And honestly? The questions started hitting quick: If I leave, will the people I’ve built with still want to work with me? If I can’t show up 24/7, are they still down? It’s that weird moment when excitement and self-doubt hit at the same time.

    The truth is… I didn’t have everything figured out. I didn’t have a 10-step plan to calm the what “ifs”. But the more I sat in that house, the more I realized… I had outgrown it. The open door vibe we once loved? It started feeling cold. Like the energy didn’t match anymore.

    And that’s when it clicked: If I didn’t pivot, I’d stay stuck doing things the old way, for people who might not even expect that of me anymore. Or want to only see me in that way –

    This isn’t just fiction — it’s a reflection.
    Inspired by the real, raw feeling of walking away from something that once felt like everything.

    The Launder

    No one really knew who built The Launder.
    It sat just beyond the edge of the old grove, tucked between wild hills and the hush of ancient trees.
    It was said to bless the land, protect the bond of bloodlines, and keep the stories of the elders clean.

    But the rules… they were never spoken.
    Only passed down in looks, in sighs, in the soft folding of hands that had given too much for too long.

    When you arrive — not as a stranger, but as the next in line — you are given three tasks.
    Gilded in honor, but heavy in cost.

    The first: Bring water from the low river to the highest cliff, every morning before sunbreak.
    Not for survival, but for devotion — a daily offering to prove you are willing to carry the weight of another’s comfort.

    The second: When your first child is born, they are named not by you, but by the elder.
    They belong not to your heart alone, but to the legacy of the land — bound to serve the story, not their own.

    And the third: Every woman must stand beneath The Mirror Tree — where bark turns to silver and reflects your shape, your stance, your soul.
    You are judged not by truth, but by tradition.
    By how small you can become in the name of keeping things “beautiful.”

    They say it’s the way it’s always been.
    But lately, you’ve started to wonder: what if that doesn’t make it right?

    The trees know.
    The wind pulls at your sleeves like a whisper.

    And one morning, when the river’s too low to fill your jar — you pause.
    You don’t climb.

    You don’t explain.

    You just walk the long path home, empty-handed —
    but finally full of yourself.

    What I’ve Learned Since Choosing Peace (Pssst… I’ve been out of my childhood house since 17)

    Alright, real talk.
    Finding peace isn’t about running away — it’s about creating your own vibe. Here’s what’s been working for me:

    Step 1: Carve out a little you zone.
    Grab your fave drink (coffee, tea, or heck, a fancy sparkling water), chill for 5 minutes, and just feel. No scrolling. No thinking about your to-do list. Just vibes.
    Do this enough, and your brain starts making calm your new default. Trust me. It’s magic.

    Step 2: Start journaling about things YOU wanna try.
    Not what everyone else wants from you. Your dreams, your goals, your wild ideas.
    I swear, it’s like a happiness hack that keeps me locked in the present and actually excited about life.

    Step 3: Pick up a hobby — the quirkier, the better.
    Paint, dance, build something, hit the gym, start a mini garden — whatever floats your boat.
    Seeing yourself level up in something? Confidence BOOSTED. Especially when life’s throwing curveballs (been there, worked two jobs with zero chill).

    Step 4: Expect people to meet your energy.
    Love big? Get loved back big. Don’t care? Don’t be shocked if they don’t either. It’s a two-way street, friends.

    Step 5: Keep loving hard — but only for those who deserve it.
    When people turn away, don’t chase or plead. Love them silently from a distance and focus on watering your own garden instead.
    Your energy is precious. Invest it where it grows, not where it drains.

    ✧ Why This Part Matters

    — the world moves fast. You’re constantly giving, adjusting, performing, healing, and sometimes just trying to keep up. But when do you get to land?

    That’s what this moment is for.

    This little routine isn’t just cute self-care — it’s you reclaiming your nervous system, one breath at a time.
    It’s not about “fixing” yourself. It’s about reminding yourself:
    You’re safe. You’re enough. You’re allowed to take up space without proving anything.

    When you do this — even for 5 minutes — you start building a version of “home” that can’t be taken away.
    No matter where you are or who’s around, you’ll carry a calm, confident you… with you.

    This part is the reset.
    This part is the power.
    And honestly?
    You deserve this.

    ✧ Your Favourite Part Starts Here ✧

    If you don’t have a routine yet, borrow this one — it’s simple, soft, and all yours.

    ☁️ Step 1: Find a space that feels calm. Could be your room floor, a sunny spot in the kitchen, even your parked car.

    🌿 Step 2: Sit on the ground. Deep breaths in, long breaths out. Let your body know it’s safe to just be.

    🍵 Step 3: Set the vibe. Play your favourite song, sip something warm, light a scent you love, or grab a little snack.

    🫀 Step 4: Tap your chest for 30 seconds. While you breathe, imagine releasing anything you’ve rejected or pushed away today:

    Someone said something that stung? Let it move through you.
    Felt out of place or misunderstood? Breathe through it.
    You’re not broken — you’re becoming.

    🌎 Step 5: Say this (or think it):
    “I am my own home. I carry peace with me. I’m allowed to take up space here.”

    It might feel a little “woo” or weird at first. But imagine if it does work?
    You’d walk into any space with quiet confidence — knowing you don’t need a perfect place to feel at home.
    Because you’ve built one inside.

    Creative Credits

    This moment was built with heart — and we couldn’t have done it without our incredible team.

    ✨ Model: Sydney May — a ZealUnity muse who brought the calm, the power, and the story to life.
    📸 Photography: Captured by the talented Okanagan Portraits , from the Zeal Social Management media team.

    We love our people. Every frame, every word, every moment — it’s made better because of you.

    Tag us if you try this routine or resonate with the story — we’d love to hear from you 💌
    @zealunity | @zealsocialmanagement

    With love, always. 🤍
    — The ZEAL team

  • I Met My Fiancé in a Bar at 20

    I Met My Fiancé in a Bar at 20

    In this story, you’ll find real signs that might help you on your own journey—

    The timing didn’t make sense, I wasn’t looking, and honestly, I almost didn’t say anything. But something told me to go for it.

    If you’ve been wondering how to know when it’s right—or how to trust yourself when something feels different—this one’s for you.

    Simple, real, and maybe exactly what you need to hear right now.

    Wait… I’m Only 20

    How I accidentally found something real, what it taught me, and the signs that showed me I was ready—before I even knew it.

    So here’s the vibe: I had just graduated, and, honestly, I thought I had it all figured out—or at least I wanted to think I did. You know that whole Malibu Pink Dream where you marry the guy you first kissed and everything just falls into place? Yeah, that was the fantasy. But, spoiler alert, life had other plans.

    Before I met Mason, I had come out of a relationship that just… wasn’t good. I felt confused, honestly. Like I didn’t know who I was anymore. That age—18 to 20—it’s wild. You feel like you’re supposed to know what you’re doing, but really you’re just starting the climb and it’s super uncomfy. I was living alone, barely holding it together, trying to get my photography hustle going. My family was going through it too, so everything just felt heavy.

    But I kept working on myself, even if I was hurting. I couldn’t see what was next, but I felt something coming. Then one random night, I was at this little town bar—taking pics for content, doing my thing—and I look up and see this guy. The night before, I had been so done. I literally drank water, said a little prayer, and asked to be guided to my person + purpose. I think I saw the method on TikTok? Either way, I believed it.

    And boom. The next night, there I was, off the clock at this bar I’d been going to forever, and suddenly I’m sitting across from someone I’d never seen before—even though we literally knew everyone in common. It was surreal. I almost walked away, but something told me to stay. Trust your gut. That night was the start of something I never could’ve imagined.

    What Made This a Green Flag (And Not Just Another “He’s Different I Swear” Moment 💍)

    In the beginning, it’s hard to really tell if something’s going to be real. You just can’t know right away—but what you can do is look for the subtle signs. Are they giving you full energy and effort? Do they keep the conversation going by asking deeper questions when things start to lull? Are they tuned into your energy and actually respecting it—or just complimenting how you look?

    For me, I knew I wasn’t walking into another gaslight-lovebomb-repeat cycle. I had my flags all the way up. One of the biggest was: if he talks about himself, does he loop me into it? Does he offer the same level of listening I’m giving? Because if not, I’m not sitting through that again.

    With Mason, something was different. Even now, one of his biggest green flags is the way he listens. Like, really listens. He lets the space sit in a convo and doesn’t rush it—but somehow he always responds like he’s been taking mental notes with a pen and paper. That patience and presence? That’s rare. That’s what told me I wasn’t just being heard—I was being understood.

    That night at the bar? We talked for 7 hours straight—barely touched our drinks. No distractions, just us locked in, like the world paused so we could actually see each other.

    Biggest Green Flag? The Energy Had Depth.

    One of my biggest turn-ons? Spirituality. Not in the “let me read your birth chart and disappear” way—but more in the vibe of someone who can have open, honest conversations without needing to wrap it all up. Just someone who can flow with the conversation and take the time to walk through the thoughts together. I love people who inspire me, and it doesn’t even have to be some deep, life-changing thing. It could be the way you make your morning coffee, the energy in your space, or how you move through your day.

    And you know what I just thought of… People who are great at what they do usually fall into one of two categories: either super structured, but a bit off in other ways, or laid-back, dependable, with a solid work ethic. The second one? That’s the kind of energy I was looking for.

    When I first saw his place, he had a rose quartz in the living room. Not gonna lie, it wasn’t placed in the most organized way—it was a little random. But it wasn’t about the placement. It was the fact that he had it there at all. That small detail said way more about him than any perfect setup could.

    Structure? Check.

    Why IT Got So Serious🤍

    I grew up seeing a lot of divorce in my family, so I guess I always had a different view of relationships. But even through all that, I still believed in love. I didn’t know exactly what it would look like, but I knew I wanted something real. A family, a solid foundation, but not in the traditional sense.

    So yeah, being serious this young? Definitely shocks some people. But honestly, I was over the hookup culture and all the energy-draining stuff. Meeting people, going out, trying to align with people who aren’t even on the same vibe…Exhausting. I get it if you’re still all about that, I was too. But things hit differently when you start wanting more.

    Girls’ night? Used to be all about talking about the guys but now.. I just want to curl up with my person, watch TV, and not deal with any negativity. It’s not that I don’t love my friends—I do!—but I just don’t have the energy for drama anymore. I didn’t realize how much I needed that peace until I found it.

    Just lucky I found my person.

    What I Wasn’t Going to Settle For: Early Talks

    There’s a lot of conversation these days about what roles we choose to take on in relationships, and while everyone’s path is different, I think how we’ve been raised plays a huge part in shaping what we desire. For some, starting a family is the ultimate goal. For others, it’s a different kind of fulfillment. And personally, I’m just grateful to have the freedom to choose what feels right for me.

    That being said, I wasn’t going to let go of my voice or compromise on the things that matter most to me. I had some non-negotiables, and here’s what they were.

    1. Honesty above all else. It might not always be easy, but keeping things to yourself to spare feelings never works out. In my view, it’s always better to speak up respectfully. In the end, it’s us against the world.
    2. We keep our individuality. We each make time for the things we love to do, and we support each other in that. It’s important not to lose ourselves in the process.

    Trust is essential, but it’s not about just saying “yes” to everything. If someone changes their behavior intentionally, that’s a red flag. It’s not a “miscommunication,” it’s something deeper. And I wasn’t about to ignore that.

    Mason? He’s good. He’s solid. He’s real. And I want to share this because I believe we all deserve to find someone who respects what we bring to the table.

    Growing Together: Like… Actually

    You know that feeling when everything just starts syncing up? Like suddenly your goals hit different, your confidence goes up, and your daily routine doesn’t feel like a mess anymore? That’s when you know you’re growing with someone, not just dating them.

    It’s giving power couple energy—but make it real. You feel more like you, not less. They know your moods, your fav songs, your weird little habits, and somehow it all makes you feel safe but still excited.

    And listen, if you’re constantly feeling off outside the relationship, like drained or second-guessing everything… it’s a sign. Being with someone shouldn’t mute your magic. Together or apart, the vibe should still feel full. If not? That’s not growth—it’s a pause.

    🎯 20 Sneaky Questions to Ask Your Partner (+ What Their Answers Could Say About Them)

    If you could live anywhere for a year, where would it be?🌍 Big dreamer = adventurous.🏠 Same hometown = loves comfort.
    Would you rather plan the trip or just show up?📋 Planner = responsible.🛫 Spontaneous = fun but maybe chaotic.
    What’s your dream Saturday?🧘‍♀️ Chill = calm energy.🎉 Wild = thrill seeker.
    What’s something you secretly wish you were amazing at?🎨 Creative stuff = deep soul.💼 Business stuff = ambition coded.
    What’s your go-to when you’re stressed?🏃‍♂️ Gym/active = healthy outlet.🍸 Party = 🚩 maybe distraction issues.
    What’s a dealbreaker for you in friendships?🚪 Instant exit = strong boundaries.🥴 “Idk” = red flag… lack of standards.
    If money wasn’t a thing, what would you do all day?💸 Hustler mindset = long-term player.🍃 Vibe-only = might struggle with pressure.
    What was your favourite age so far?🎈Childhood = still healing?🌟 Recent = growing & evolving.
    Do you believe everything happens for a reason?✨ Yes = emotionally deep.🥱 No = might need more convincing.
    Would you rather be respected or loved?🧠 Respected = stable and serious.💕 Loved = sensitive king/queen.
    What’s your toxic trait?😇 Honest = self-aware.🙈 Avoids = no thanks.
    What’s a weird food combo you secretly like?🥑 Quirky = fun to live with.🚫 “Nothing” = boring sorry not sorry.
    What’s something you’d want to get better at in relationships?💬 Communication = green flag.🙃 “I’m good” = delulu alert.
    How do you usually apologize?📖 Talks it out = healthy.😬 Avoids it = prepare for headaches.
    Would you rather win an award or hear it privately from someone you love?🏆 Public = external validation vibes.🥹 Private = heart-centered.
    What’s something random that makes you feel rich?🧺 Clean sheets? 🚿 Long showers? They appreciate the little things.
    What’s your favourite part of your day usually?☀️ Morning = motivated.🌙 Night = deep thinker.
    What’s your favourite way to recharge?🔥 Alone time = independent.🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Around people = extrovert coded.
    How do you like spending holidays?Family = loyal and sentimental.✈️ Getaway trips = loves freedom.
    If you could master one random skill, what would it be?🎸 Guitar = romantic tendencies.

    (without making it weird or overthinking it)

    • Stay loud in your little ways.
      Your jokes, your random interests, your way of doing things? That’s literally what makes you you. Don’t “soften” yourself to fit some imaginary vibe. If you’re goofy, be goofy. If you’re quiet but witty, let it snipe out in moments.
    • Confidence ≠ being the loudest.
      Confidence is just being sure you don’t need to perform. You’re not auditioning. You’re just existing. Let the energy come to you, not the other way around.
    • You’re not “too much.”
      Real ones want the full you — the layered, crazy, chill, passionate, whatever-you-are-today you. If you feel yourself shrinking around someone… that’s info, babe, not a sign you need to get smaller.
    • Open heart, wise mind.
      Stay soft and open to love, new conversations, and cute little surprises — but keep your standards, your goals, and your non-negotiables on lock.
      (being open doesn’t mean you gotta abandon your instincts.)
    • Silence doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
      You don’t have to fill every second with talking or energy. Being able to just exist together is hot. Comfort is loud in its own way.
    • Remind yourself: you’re the prize too.
      Not in an ego way. In a mutual respect, mutual effort, mutual energy kind of way.
      You’re not “lucky” they like you. They’re lucky they get to experience you in your light.

    23, a Baby, and Building a Life Together

    If you would’ve told me a few years ago that by 23 I’d have a baby with the boy I met at the bar and we’d be running our own businesses…
    I would’ve laughed and gone right back to overthinking my entire life in my notes app. 😂

    But somehow — here we are.
    And honestly? It’s better than anything I could’ve planned.
    Not perfect. Not some Pinterest board 24/7.
    Just real. And really good.

    When I look around now… the baby, the work, the everyday memories we’re stacking — I feel nothing but grateful that I listened to myself.
    Even when it was easier to just isolate.
    Even when shutting down felt safer than risking being seen.
    Even when growing felt like too much.

    Choosing to stay soft, choosing love, choosing to show up for my own life — it didn’t steal anything from me.
    It gave me everything I didn’t even know I wanted yet.

    And the wild part?
    It’s still just getting started.
    More babies. More businesses. More memories I haven’t even dreamed up yet.

    All because I decided to bet on myself and stay open when the good stuff came in.

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    Big shoutout to the amazing models for this shoot: Sarah, Hammad, Sydney, and Olivia! And a huge thank you to photographer Georgia and the ZEAL media team for bringing it all together. We’re so grateful for everyone involved in making this shoot come to life! Stay tuned for more!

  • BOBBY JACK

    BOBBY JACK

    Glitter, a Bobby Jack sweater, and a childhood that didn’t fit the sparkles.

    There’s a certain kind of girl the world forgets to protect.
    She isn’t loud. She isn’t broken in a way that draws attention.
    She’s just… there. In the middle of things. Holding it all together.

    This one was seven. Her sister was five. They were pass-the-phone-between-houses kids. Living on a custody clock — not the split-week kind, but the kind where weekends, summers, and holidays belonged to him.

    Their bodies never settled; their backpacks always packed.

    One house was burnout on a schedule. Predictable, but tired. Routine so strict it left no room for softness. Everyone was doing their best, just too worn down to remember to smile.

    The other house — chaotic. Unpredictable.
    A man who mistook intensity for love and emotion for control.

    He cried a lot. Smoked just enough. Left the TV on at night, loud like a heartbeat trying to drown out his own thoughts. Sometimes she crept downstairs to turn it off. Other nights… he asked her to stay. To cuddle. Just for a second. Just to make him feel less alone.

    She didn’t want to.
    But she stayed.
    Because it was easier than saying no.

    Because if she was good — if she was calm, quiet, agreeable — maybe the rage wouldn’t come. Maybe her sister could sleep. Maybe he wouldn’t hate the drive back to their mom’s.

    Spoiler: He did.
    Every time.

    He came back angrier, tighter. His body language sharper than his voice. Sometimes he cried. Sometimes he slammed doors. But always, always — she was the one he looked at like she owed him something. Like her little shoulders were built to carry grown-up emotions.

    She did her best.

    Then came the summer of the trailer.

    — The new girlfriend — brought fresh air into the house. A dog, too. A new kind of silence: peaceful, not tense. Her sister finally slept over. She smiled more. They played outside. It started to feel like maybe this would be the moment life got better.

    They planned a camping trip. The first one in years.

    She packed with intention:
    Her sparkles. Her Bobby Jack hoodie. DC shoes she wore like a declaration.
    This time would be different.
    She wrote in her journal: This will be the best trip ever.

    But the man — her father — was unraveling in the background.
    Asking questions with panic under the surface: Did this fit? Did that close right? Would this wheel hold?

    She wanted to ask something simple.
    What if a tire fell off?
    A kid question. A valid one.

    But his face stiffened into a smile that wasn’t a smile.
    “That won’t happen.”
    The kind of answer that makes you wish you hadn’t asked.

    Three hours in, it did.

    The trailer tire blew. No tools. No plan. No backup.
    Just a man pacing in the sun, muttering about towns and repairs and how none of this was his fault.

    They drove in circles.
    Things got lost.
    So did she, a little.

    Not physically. Spiritually.
    Because when you’re a kid and your grown-up can’t hold it together,
    you learn to swallow your own fear and call it strength.
    You learn that sometimes men love loud — but not safe.

    She watched him more carefully after that.
    His tells. His shifts. The way he couldn’t handle uncertainty.
    How his anxiety looked like anger.
    And how his “I need you” meant You’re the adult now.

    That day, she stopped writing in the journal.
    The sparkles went dull.

    But she never forgot.

    The wheel will always fall — not because you’re cursed,
    but because someone didn’t check if it could.

    Hey, I’m Taylor. I love sharing real stories about community, growth, and everything in between.

     

  • The Others’ Eyes

    The Others’ Eyes

    An Editorial on Hiding Who You Are—And What You See When You Finally Stop

    Now that I’m finally becoming who I am,
    I see the pretending more clearly in everyone else.
    And sometimes I still ask myself—
    Was it wrong to play along,
    even when I knew it wasn’t real?

    @ZEALUNITY

    When you’re younger, you can easily fall into playing a role you’re not sure of—doing things just to fit in or to make others happy without fully understanding the impact. But as you get older, you start to realize the difference between actions done without meaning and actions done with intention. The real danger comes when you’ve already shared your feelings, and people continue to act without consideration.

    When you don’t address it, when you don’t speak up, it starts to look like you’re easy to manipulate. It’s not about being passive anymore; it’s about being aware of the choices you’re making and protecting your peace. Letting things slide is like giving away a piece of yourself, and eventually, you’re left wondering where you went and who’s been controlling the narrative.

    Someone Else’s Narrative

    Identifying situations that don’t serve you starts with recognizing the signs. One of the clearest examples is a relationship that doesn’t lift you up, a connection that leaves you feeling drained instead of fulfilled. If you’re unsure whether this is happening, ask yourself: What does happiness look like to me? What things truly make me happy? Have I been doing them?

    If all your answers revolve around other people—how they make you feel or what they bring to your life—it’s time to pause and reflect. Ask yourself why you’re so attached to this person. If it’s just a “feeling” you can’t quite explain, be honest with yourself: you’re likely easy to manipulate. You need to know who you are first, before you can figure out who someone else is in your life. Understanding yourself is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Without that, you might find yourself lost in someone else’s expectations, losing sight of what truly makes you happy.

    2. Quit Pretending: Own Your Truth and Level Up

    It’s crucial to never mask yourself for anyone. When you do, it’s obvious—people can see that you’re not being genuine, and they’ll pick up on your insecurities. It leaves you vulnerable, an easy target for manipulation. The real you gets hidden, and others begin to shape their perception of who you are based on what they want you to be, not who you truly are.

    If you feel anxiety just for being yourself, it’s time to ask some tough questions. Do my actions align with my future goals? Am I making a positive effort every day to move forward, or am I just putting in the effort to stay where I am? Living should feel like freedom, even on the tough days that bring sadness. You are here for a reason, and the question is—what could you be doing right now to better yourself?

    Recovering After You’ve Broken Free

    Sometimes, after too many experiences that leave you feeling drained, it feels like you’re stuck on your floor or bed for days, consumed by emotions. It might not seem like part of the process, but honestly, it’s necessary. Let yourself feel it. Don’t let others distract you from it—it’s your moment to process. And when you’re ready to move on, do things that help express the rest of what you’re feeling.

    Look in the mirror and take a second to appreciate how amazing you are, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment. Put on your favourite song, relax, and focus on doing absolutely nothing—just being. It’s harder than it sounds, but sometimes it’s exactly what you need. Look up at the sky and allow yourself to dream, to believe in what’s next.

    For me, one of my go-to moves is to go to Walmart or dig through my old clothes to make an outfit and shoot it. I started doing that when I was 9—putting on Halloween costumes, grabbing makeup, and making videos with a National Geographic kids’ camera. But now, I do it my own way. I take the same creative energy, but it’s evolved into something that’s uniquely mine. It’s how I express myself, even when I feel like I’ve got no words left.

    Confronting with Clarity: Staying Healthy Through Difficult Conversations

    After you’ve given yourself some time to decompress, it’s time to face the situation more seriously, but with clarity. Reacting impulsively, especially when emotions are running high, only fuels the conflict. Often, you’ve been contributing just as much energy to the situation—whether you realize it or not. And sometimes, the other person might be aware of this, using your emotional reaction to manipulate the situation and pin it on you later.

    Take a moment to breathe and check yourself. Don’t let anyone control you, even if they’re trying to provoke a reaction. That’s often exactly what they want. Own your actions, express your feelings clearly, and create space for open communication. Let them share their perspective, but keep the conversation civil and respectful. Close things off on a positive note, leaving no room for bad blood.

    Once you’ve said what you need to, let it go. You’ve validated your feelings, communicated your truth, and didn’t let emotions take over. You didn’t use threats or manipulation. That’s growth. Don’t expect them to understand immediately, and if they respond negatively, it only confirms the energy they bring. Even in heated moments, it’s possible to handle things with respect, without letting them control how you feel.

    Stay Connected for More Insight

    Follow us for more content to help you keep moving forward. It’s about facing things head-on, staying true to yourself, and owning your story.

    Stay tuned.

  • Is It Self-Love, or Just the Validation You Crave?

    Is It Self-Love, or Just the Validation You Crave?

    A Creative’s Perspective

    The line between self-love and seeking validation is becoming increasingly blurred, especially for brands. As a creative director who’s worked with a wide range of brands—local, Canadian, you name it—I’ve seen firsthand how things have shifted. Here’s the tea: I remember when you’d post on your story, asking for free models and support, reaching out to people to help bring your vision to life when you couldn’t offer them much in return. But now, when those same people—who helped build your platform and supported you from the beginning—come to you with more experience and knowledge, suddenly they’re “not what you want.” You’ve got no interest in working with them anymore.

    Is it because they’ve grown and gained value, and now they have the confidence to demand better? You can’t claim to be all about self-love, empowerment, and positivity, and then turn your back on the very people who helped get you where you are. If you’re truly about self-love, you should be embracing and elevating those who’ve had your back from the start—not dismissing them when they’ve grown and can offer more.

    So, what changed? Is it that these people now know their worth, or is it that your brand doesn’t know what it stands for anymore? It’s getting harder to tell whether this is about real self-love or just chasing something shallow and convenient. The lines are blurring, and the truth is starting to show.

    Who Buys, Who’s in Control? Let’s Take a Look at That.

    Let’s zoom out and take a look at the bigger picture. According to the U.S. Census Bureau and the Small Business Administration (SBA), as of 2021, 40% of businesses in the U.S. are female-owned. That’s a significant leap from 1990, when female-owned businesses made up just 24%, compared to 76% male-owned. This progress is undeniable, but it raises an important question: are these numbers growing because of real, systemic change, or are they simply reflecting who holds the power to offer opportunities? Similarly, while white-owned businesses still account for about 88%-90%, minority-owned businesses (Black, Hispanic, Asian, and Indigenous entrepreneurs) make up only 10-12%. These figures show progress, but they also highlight that barriers like limited access to capital, systemic discrimination, and fewer networking opportunities are still deeply ingrained. So, while the numbers have shifted, it’s worth asking whether the system itself has truly evolved.

    As a young, white, blonde-haired, blue-eyed female, I’ve felt this harvest. When I was newer, with less to offer and fewer credentials, people assessed what they could take from me. It looked like they were giving me more opportunities, but in reality, they just thought they could use me. The same dynamic plays out when we talk about self-love and validation—where individuals or brands pick and choose based on what benefits them. It’s easy to let others define your worth, but when you do, the real question becomes: if you let them control the narrative, who truly owns you? Are we really loving ourselves, or are we just playing a numbers game, where the only thing that matters is who has more to offer?

    That shift—happening only about 30 years ago—was a pivotal moment, but while the players may have become smarter and more adaptive, the fundamental rules of the system remain largely unchanged. The “I ride you, you ride me” mentality is still alive: you do what’s needed to make others happy, and in return, you’re offered opportunities. But how can anyone genuinely find happiness or fulfillment when they’re not at peace with the world or industry they’re in? Too many people follow the same path out of fear or the necessity of financial security. But when that happens, it’s not self-love driving the decisions—it’s the pursuit of validation, often at the cost of personal worth.

    In the end, we have to ask ourselves: are we truly embracing self-love, or are we still operating within a system where the rules haven’t really changed, just the players? In a world where value is often measured by what we can give or achieve, not who we are, it’s easy to get lost in the cycle of validation. The lines between self-love and seeking approval, worth and worthiness, have all started to blur. As we navigate this evolving landscape, we must confront the truth: the change we seek may not come from the numbers or external markers, but from within. If we can shift the focus from external validation to genuine self-worth, we can break free and truly embrace the power of self-love.

    Finding the Right Fit: How to Pitch Yourself as a Creative

    When you’re pitching yourself to a business as a creative, make sure you really check out the brand first. Does their vibe match yours? Look at how diverse they are—who’s behind the brand, and how do they show up to the public? Are they open to change, or have they been doing the same thing for a long time? Think about what you want to get out of working with them. The right brand should let you be yourself and help you grow, not try to change who you are. Make sure it feels like a good fit for you.

    • Don’t get too excited about everything – When you’re starting out, everything might look awesome, but not every opportunity is the right fit for you.
    • Build your portfolio, but choose carefully – Yes, portfolio work is important, but who you work with matters just as much. The right people can open doors for you.
    • Learn to say no – Saying no is part of protecting yourself. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to turn it down.
    • Don’t be afraid to leave – If the brand doesn’t give you that “homey” feeling or respect your boundaries, run for the hills—like, right now! Your peace matters.
    • Pay attention to how they make you feel – If they don’t make you feel valued or at ease, it’s time to walk away.

    Bottom Line

    The more you love and trust yourself, the less likely you are to end up in situations where you’re being used. Your gut will always pick up on bad vibes—it won’t let you ignore them. You just have to trust that feeling and speak up when something’s off. If they can say whatever they want to you, why can’t you speak your truth too? Don’t let the fear of missing out on opportunities stop you from using your voice. The right opportunities will come when you stand firm in what you believe. Ask yourself: Are you going to be part of the problem, or part of the solution?

    Huge thanks to our incredible creative team! This month, as we focus on love and share tips for navigating the world around us, we couldn’t have done it without you all.

    Photographer: @OkanaganPortraits
    Media: @ZealSocialManagement
    Creative Community: @Zealunity
    Hair: @Ninashairspace
    Model: Deep Saini

    We are so grateful for your talent, collaboration, and hard work in bringing this vision to life! Thank you for being part of this journey.

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  • Small Town Telephone: The Subtle Art of Using Others

    Small Town Telephone: The Subtle Art of Using Others

    Secrets, Lies, and the Unseen Web of Opportunity

    In a small town, nothing stays secret for long—especially when every conversation is a thread in a web of rumours, alliances, and hidden motives. One casual chat at lunch can set off a chain reaction that spirals out of control. You might not even know it’s happening, but trust me—someone is watching, listening, and waiting for their moment to use it to their advantage.

    Talk to Kim after work. Kim’s sister? She’s the one who “stalks” you on Instagram but acts like you’re invisible in public. And in the blink of an eye, what started as a simple exchange can become ammunition in a battle you didn’t even know you were fighting.

    In a small town like this, it’s not just about who you know—it’s about who’s using you, and who’s about to turn the tables.

    PROOF

    Click, Flash – Screenshot. Did you forget the trail you left behind? It’s curious how quickly admiration can shift when it’s easier to rewrite the story. Did you forget how much you loved it?

    One moment, It’s admiration and validation; the next, denial and shifting.

    Here’s the thing: People’s perceptions of you are fluid—and often, they aren’t about you at all. They’re about the context, the relationships, and the insecurities others project onto you. That’s why one day you’re the hero, and the next, you’re a ghost.

    So, how do you deal with it? First, don’t internalize the shift. Admiration and validation may feel good, but they are external factors, and they don’t define your worth. Secondly, don’t chase the approval of others. Instead, find validation within yourself. When the pendulum swings from admiration to denial, the only person who can truly validate you is you.

    Why Some People Want You to Chase Them –

    1.) It Feeds Their Ego: When someone knows you’re chasing them, it makes them feel good about themselves. They feel important and wanted, which boosts their confidence and self-esteem.

    2.) They Enjoy the Game: For some, the chase itself is exciting. Keeping you interested and unsure makes them feel powerful. It adds drama and keeps things interesting for them.

    3.) They’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable: Some people keep you chasing because they’re afraid to get too close or open up. By keeping their distance, they protect themselves from getting hurt or rejected.

    4.) They Want Control: By having you chase them, they stay in control of the relationship. They decide when to be close and when to pull away, which can make them feel secure.

    Using Others for Growth (From a Healthy Perspective)

    1.) Use others as a mirror to build self-worth
    When someone makes you chase them, it’s an opportunity to reflect on your own sense of self-worth. Instead of seeking validation from them, you can use this experience to remind yourself that your value comes from within, not from someone else’s approval.

    2.) Use emotional detachment to gain perspective
    Chasing someone can make you emotionally entangled. Use this situation to practice detachment, learning to care for people without letting their actions control your emotional state. By detaching, you gain more clarity and control over your feelings.

    3.) Use the opportunity to master emotional control
    When you’re in a chase, emotions can run high—frustration, insecurity, or doubt. Use these moments to practice emotional control! Learning to stay calm and centered, no matter the circumstances. This strengthens your emotional resilience and helps you respond rather than react.

    Fun Ways to Celebrate Your Growth After Overcoming the Chase

    Throw a “Victory” Party (Just for You)

    Sometimes the best celebrations are solo.

    • Movie marathon: Watch your favourite feel-good movies or binge-watch a series you’ve been putting off.
    • Dance party: Put on your favourite playlist and dance around your living room like no one’s watching. Let loose and celebrate your freedom.
    • Guilt-free treat: Order your favourite meal or dessert (ice cream, pizza, sushi—whatever feels like a treat) and savour it.

    Follow along for more insider tips on how to become the most upgraded version of yourself—whether it’s mastering emotional control, setting healthy boundaries, or learning to love yourself more fully.

    • The M in the Middle: When Motivation Masks the True Creative Drive

      The M in the Middle: When Motivation Masks the True Creative Drive

      In a world where opportunities often disguise themselves, it’s easy to mistake that self serving drive—an ego chasing validation – for true growth. When someone enters your space with smooth words but a hollow intent, it’s time to ask yourself: Why are they using me? And why can’t they create what they desire on their own? This story explores the line between trust and exploitation, between real inspiration and those who come only to take.

      In a neon-lit city, where creativity thrived and innovation pulsed through the streets, there was a shop unlike any other. It wasn’t just a place to buy—it was a space where energy and inspiration merged, each piece crafted with a depth and authenticity that people could feel the moment they walked in. The owner, a woman who could shift her form as fluidly as the city’s ever changing pulse, infused the shop with her spirit. Some days, it felt organic, calm, with soft lighting and natural lines; other days, it was bold and electric, filled with sharp angles and vivid colours. The shop reflected her—always adapting, but always alive with creativity.

      One day, a figure entered. They were sleek, dressed in clothes that seemed to shift with each movement, their gaze sharp and penetrating. When their eyes met hers, there was something unsettling about it. It wasn’t curiosity or warmth—it was cold, calculating, filled with a quiet pride, as if they knew more than she did. But, she reminded herself to trust, to open her heart as she had been asked to do. Maybe this was the connection she had been waiting for.

      The figure spoke of collaboration—of blending visions, of creating something bigger than both of them. Their words were smooth, their tone confident. For a moment, the shopkeeper allowed herself to believe it was a connection she could grow with. She shared the heart of her work, the long hours, the passion, the risk that made every creation real. She opened herself to the possibility, hoping it could help the vision evolve.

      Days later, a new shop appeared on the same street. At first, she thought nothing of it, but as she looked closer, something felt wrong. The designs, the colours, the energy…it was all too familiar. Her heart dropped. The figure hadn’t come to collaborate—they had come to steal. They had used her heart to take what wasn’t theirs and twist it into something hollow, serving ego.

      The whispers spread quickly. The new shop was sleek and polished – The designs were the same, the energy was the same, but it lacked the soul. The authenticity that made her creations come alive was gone, felt to be replaced by a surface-level imitation.

      But the shopkeeper didn’t linger on it for long. As soon as the realization hit, something inside her shifted. It was like a veil had lifted, and she finally understood: creativity wasn’t something you could steal. It wasn’t a commodity to be taken, repackaged, and sold. It was a pulse—a living force that couldn’t be replicated.

      And so, she changed. She shape-shifted—not just in form, but in spirit. She moved on, slipping away from the city that tried to capture her essence. No one could find her now, no one could trace the source of her inspiration. She was gone—fading like a shadow, always ahead, always shifting.

      Her work, however, lived on untouched, untraceable. The city could attempt to copy, to mimic, but they would never find the spark that made it real. The true source of her creativity was forever hidden, constantly evolving, just out of reach.

      The advice behind this story is about recognizing when someone is trying to take advantage of you and how to avoid it. Here’s how you can protect yourself:

      1. Ask Questions: If someone wants something from you, ask them questions about what they really want. Genuine people will have specific answers. Those looking to take advantage will give vague or general responses.
      2. Trust Your Own Voice: Don’t judge someone by their title or what others say about them. Focus on who they are to you. Your own experience with them matters more than anyone else’s opinion.
      3. Stay Open but Guarded: Be willing to connect with others, but also know when to step back. Not every person or opportunity is worth your time. Rotten fruit falls on its own—you don’t need to waste your energy trying to fix it.

      In short, trust your instincts, ask the right questions, and don’t let others use you. Stay true to yourself and let people prove their worth. 

      Clout chasers, fakes, and foes—
      Who’s real, and who’s just waiting to be exposed?
      Only you know, with those words that trigger,
      Maybe it’s time for you to look a little deeper.

      Creative Team

      A big thank you to everyone who made this vision come to life. Your talent and hard work made all the difference.

      • Makeup and Hair: Rayna and her team @estheticzbrayna, you worked magic to create the perfect looks.
      • Photography: @okanganportraits, your shots captured the essence of the shoot beautifully.
      • Media and Social Management: Zeal Social Management, thanks for handling the digital side and helping us share the project with the world.
      • Set and Makeup Concept: @_ge0de, your creativity set the tone and brought everything together.
      • Model: Kirat @kirat_d, your energy and presence brought the concept to life in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
      MEDIA: @ZEALSOCIALMANAGEMENT

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